Lifelong Marriage: Not for the Faint of Heart

The other day I was talking to my Aunt Joan and she mentioned that she and Uncle Jack will be married 60 years in December.  "I think we're going to last," she said.  She was only 16 when they married and conventional wisdom wouldn't have given them much of a chance.  Her Aunt Bert gave her sheets for a wedding gift, saying, "If you don't last I want these back!"  But they did last, with two happily married sons and five grandkids, a family business (Aunt Joan still answers the phone), and a "family compound" on their land "out in the country" as we used to refer to thei...more
Absolutely love the first tip.  Such great words from the priest.  I will have to remember ...more

It's Our 12, 755-Day Anniversary

A good marriage is where both people feel like they’re getting the better end of the deal ―Anne Lamott, Joe JonesI married Steve on June 30, 1979. I was 21 and he was 23. It’s fair to say that we were children and that we didn’t know what we were doing, but we did it anyway. Is that lucky, or what?...more

Don't Let Fear Limit Your Relationship

"The truth is, I don't know how to deal with you being depressed and I don't think I can handle it..."...more
Im so glad you wrote this. I was totally unsupported, rejected, looked down on, and ridiculed by ...more

Now and Forever -Yes We Can

Two trees stand next to each other and fused at one branch.  They symbolize human love and unbroken connection.  Is it possible to love forever and to love as "one"?When we despair and think that is not possible to find one partner for this life time, this beautiful and simply movie--that reads like a realistic "Happily Ever After" version of our search for perfect love--shows us that it is possible to find and to choose only one love for life. Even if you struggle, sometimes the love chooses you back despite all odds....more
Sounds like a lesson to be learn; a lesson many of us could watch to help us examine who we are ...more

What is True Love?

"And still, ...more

Is Being The Child Of Divorce All Bad?

It is easy to think being the child of divorce is all bad. According to the research, kids from broken families are more likely to smoke, be on Ritalin, suffer from lower self esteem, drop out of school, suffer a stroke, and die earlier than kids from intact families.But that’s not all. Kids from divorce are also more likely to repeat the mistakes of their parents. They get married younger and are significantly more likely to divorce than those who don’t come from broken homes. ...more

To Publish or Not to Publish

I cannot be the only one...who has w...more

NaBloPo...What the Mo?

I’ve been reading about it for years and finally decided now, the month of November, is the time to commit to NaBloPoMo. For those of you not on the internet 22 hours a day, you may not have heard of this. The pseudo-acronym stands for National Blog Post Month. You can read all about it here, but the synopsis means for a month I will post on my blog every day....more

On Commitment and How I Plan to Get There

Okay, I think there's a post that says I just signed up for BlogHer. They do a monthly challenge called NaBloPoMo, which involves blogging daily. Since my goal is to get into this habit, and since I'm horrible at follow through, I decided I just had to commit.  So, accountability. I hope you will nag me if I forget (or decide) not to blog. I find that in most things, a deadline and someone to yell at me if I miss it are essential. Maybe it was my twenty-plus years in journalism, but I do best when I know I have to produce....more

Getting Married? Use your playing cards.

Some people say that they no longer attend weddings because the marriages aren’t lasting very long. I haven’t been to that many weddings in my life, but having had one and having been involved (to varying degrees), in the planning of a few, I know that we sometimes put greater stock in the wedding that lasts a few hours, rather than the marriage, which is supposed to last for more than a few years....more