How to Tell if Someone is Playing Power Games with You

When it comes to feeling valued and respected at work, it’s important to avoid powerless behaviors.  It’s also important to pay attention to how people treat you.  Is someone playing a power game with you and you don’t even realize it?  Here are some ways to tell:...more

10 Bodacious Career Builders

Bodacious!  These three little syllables became my own personal rallying cry during my ten years at America Online where I started as an $8 an hour customer service rep and rose to the head of corporate training for 12,000.  Being a part of bringing online services to the world was exciting, fulfilling, and, at times, frustrating.  But I learned an invaluable lesson as a young woman who wanted to grow in her career -- being a “good girl” wasn’t good enough. ...more

What it Takes to Manifest

Though this seems like a difficult question to answer, the answer is the easy part; it is the question that is a little more difficult....more

Skeletor is no match for our inner warriors

I was carded last night at dinner, not by a 22-year-old dude but by a 38-year-old female. Normally, a compliment like that would have me flying high for a week. But this morning Skeletor appeared in the mirror again.Yes, fellow children of the 80s, I do mean He-Man’s nemesis: sunken in cheeks, dark circles under the eyes, pale as a corpse. (Flashback for all you fans right here)...more

Between Mom and Woman: Accepting Me and Letting Go of Her

My shoulders are broad; in high school they embarrassed me, since then they’ve carried three babies thousands of miles. They’ve torn down walls and helped power me swimming from one side on an island to another. When I stand in a dressing room and try on a top or a dress I try not to let the label define me. Yet there is still a part of me that sees the Large or the 10 as a failure. Too big. The idea of not fitting goes beyond the shirt; somehow it’s about me. I don’t fit. When the shirt comes off I see myself in a better light. The familiar lines of my shoulders, my waist that has expanded to carry life three times; they are, after all, precious to me....more
@Wander Thank you for this comment. I think, though honestly I am making it up as I go, that ...more

Don’t Confuse Confidence with Enthusiasm

Business leaders, entrepreneurs, sales people and marketers utilize enthusiasm to draw people to their ideas. They passionately motivate us to follow and take action.  Enthusiasm creates an emotional attachment....more

You Gotta Know What You Want to Get What You Want

By Mary FoleyHow many times do you race off in the morning, going from one thing to another until you drop? And then those days turn into weeks, and weeks turn into months or years, until you’re frustrated and confused and say, “Hey, what am I doing?” Or, as Dr. Phil McGraw would say, “How’s that working for ya?”You can’t decide how to get where you’re going until you decide where you are going and why.  Well, duh.  But so often you don’t.  I don’t.  We don’t....more

Are you Mom enough?

Time magazine asked the question ''Are you Mom enough?" in an article dated May 21, 2012. You might remember this particular issue for it's sensationalist cover of a mother breastfeeding her older child who was standing on a stool which you can see here....more

Do You Recognize the 7 Warning Signs of Low Self-Esteem?

Lately, I have noticed that self-esteem is a killer. It kills spirits, souls, and dreams! Shoot if we’re not careful it could take lives. Women walking around that we see with smiles on their faces, but secretly hurting on the inside. Low self-esteem creeps up on us. It happens to the best of us. No one is safe from it. But, the quicker you can recognize you are a victim of it. The quicker you can be a survivor, and on your way to being a Regal Real women who is both fabulous and empowered. Who has high self-esteem and is living the life of her dreams....more