Pattern Interruption in the Workplace

So you are frustrated with your direct reports. You can’t seem to get to the bottom of their gossiping and slacking off at work. You have talked to each one separately and no one is willing to say what is really going on.Pattern Interrupt is the way to go.Normally you call together a team and ask “what is going on” and you do the same thing with the individuals to no avail....more

'Sick Husband' Blues

NaBloPoMo ~ January 28, 2014 Tuesday, January 28, 2014 Which of your responsibilities stress you out the most?~~~~~~~~...more

The War Room

Daily Prompt: Conflictedby michelle w. on November 2, 2013You’re in the middle of a terrible argument, and everyone turns to you to help resolve it. How do you respond? How do you react to conflict?Photographers, artists, poets: show us a CONFLICT________________________________________________...more

Conflict on the Four-Square Court

We all experience conflict at some point or another in our lives.  Sometimes it’s disastrous conflict, sometimes it’s little and to others, it seems completely insignificant…. but it means a lot to us, no?I teach elementary school kids, young ones — kindergarten to grade 3, and I see this exemplified every single day.  I’ve tried countless times to explain the difference between tattling and reporting, but I still hear the tattles every day, after each recess.Tattling — your purpose is to get someone else in trouble.  The end....more

North Korea at War

I just came in the news and I'm still kind of shocked, even though I've kind of saw it coming. North Korea declared in their national TV program that they are actively at war again with the south. Some of my readers are military wives. Some of my personal friends are military wives, and we even have one close friend set to start a tour in South Korea this summer. We are beyond relieved that one close friend has just returned from his tour there and is now safely back in the US. ...more

Suggestions for Dealing with a Difficult Roommate

We all have had, or know someone who has had, THAT roommate. You know the one: they make Lindsay Lohan look sane, Cruella de Vil look considerate, and live like they are expecting Hoarders to show up any minute. They drive you crazy; constantly borrowing your clothes without asking or leaving dirty dishes in the sink or are always, somehow in the process of doing laundry in your very small living area, and (insert your personal pet peeve here) the list goes on....more

Is It Ever OK to Burn a Bridge?

Is it ever ok to burn a bridge? What if it gets really bad? Is it ok then? Or is the customer/boss/employer/friend/family member, etc always right? Should you stay on good terms no matter what the cost? This video has some great advice on how to deal with conflict and the burn/don't burn the bridge question. ...more
I burned a bridge when i left my job.I know i should never have....more

Dr. Romance (with Alex Franzen) "Do. Not. React"

DO. NOT. REACT.Tips for surviving & mastering confrontation, with grace —in business & in love.Pop quiz, people:How do you drop an atom bomb of sudden, unexpected (and quite possibly, undesirable) information on someone you care about — without behaving like a cruel, dispassionate ogre?AND! If you’re the unfortunate recipient of the aforementioned atom bomb, how do you respond with compassion — instead of setting off a furious chain reaction?...more

Some Conflicts Don’t Deserve the Direct Approach

In U.S. culture we place a high value on speaking directly when resolving conflicts. Compared to many other cultures across the globe we’re a “put all your cards on the table and let’s talk about this” kind of people. In a setting where each party is concerned about the other person’s needs, this conflict style is ideal. But let’s face it, in the business world that’s often not the case....more

Fostering A Positive Workplace

Experienced leaders know that conflict in the workplace can lead to disengaged employees, tension driven meetings and high employee turnover, and if conflicts continue to be left unchecked or unmanaged the possibility of fostering a positive workplace is doomed.Sound familiar to your work environment?Firstly, in order to effectively address conflict you have to understand your own personal response to conflict. Thomas-Kilmann devised an instrument to assess individual’s responses to dealing with conflict and it has been successfully used for the past 30 years....more