A Survival Checklist for the Fraught 20s Decade

If you’ve hit 20, you have entered what might shape up to be the most tumultuous, ambiguous decade you’ve yet to experience. And things only seem to get more confusing/anxiety-inducing with time.At least, that’s the way it was for yours truly.I have a confession to make: I spent my 20s as, hands down, one of the most insecure, unsure, conflicted people you could ever hope to meet.Looking back, I realize that the vast majority of the way my 20s played out was my own doing....more

When Control Gets Out of Control

Margie was the best hostess. She greeted everyone at the door. She passed appetizers and offered drinks. Margie ensured that everyone had a good time and that absolutely everything was perfect. The problem was - this was not Margie’s party. She was a guest at the party like everyone else and yet she acted as if she owned the place. Margie is a control freak. She needs to be in charge. She needs to be in control. I used to be like Margie....more

No More Striving

No more striving.No more work.Strong words,Commands actually.The words reverberate in my mindOver and over,Like a mantra.A Divine mantra.A Holy reminder to let God work in my core self,Unhindered by my meddling.This work of transformingIs a Holy workI just get in the wayWhen I attempt to manufacture myself into my idea of holiness.Laughable attempts which are caricatures of real saints...more

How To Lose Control Without Losing Your Mind

My sister had a baby a few weeks ago. Her name is Eleanor Elise, and I'm in love. As a new parent, like any and all, I'd say one of the biggest things my sister is struggling with is that her life is now…different. Different in a beautiful, positive way, but she's struggling to cope with the lack of the structure of a full-time job and an active social life – not to mention adequate rest. ...more

The Opposite of Love is Not Hate

 Sometimes as a parent, I think that I am doing what is right.  Instead,  I damage my kids despite  the best of intentions.  Love really has blinded me.  I try to protect,  instead ,  I control, betraying trust. Control, an ugly word, it steals another's sense of self,   undermines confidence,  stunts growth,  kills the individual's spirit and creativity.  Forgive me....more

Take Charge of Your Career

The When, The How, and The WHO!WHEN…When do you realize that you need to take charge of your career? When you feel like you just have a “job”.  You have no dreams or path to follow.  It's a sad way to live when what you do 40 hours per week isn't fulfilling.When you feel negative and like nothing is within your control.  When your career is dictated for you or to you.  When thinking of work makes you tired.You deserve happiness!  But...HOW…...more

Surrender Self- Defeating Control

Surrender is not a popular word in our modern culture. In fact surrendering my outer life seems like such a big deal that I resist. I cling to control like an idiot who thinks that she is clinging to a cliff with her finger nails, afraid to let go lest she fall to her death. Of course it is an irrational fear, rooted in my subconscious. Actually there is no cliff with a rock bottom....more

Control Your Temper

NaBloPoMo ~ January 23, 2014 Thursday, January 23, 2014 Do you think it’s possible to control your temper when facing enormous pressure?~~~~~~~~...more
yes, although people must vent and then let go of anger to be emotiona healthy, sometimes I ...more