The One Kindest Thing to Say to a Widow

There she is in the supermarket aisle, the park, ball field, event, sidewalk, work station, lunch room, church pew, exercise class, gas station. There she is.Thick as smoke, the air is filled with trepidation, an unknowingness of 'what to say to her'.Will she cry if you say something right or wrong? MaybeWill she remember you? MaybeWill she go into a long story about 'him' at a time you don't have the time to listen, yet will feel 100% obligated? MaybeWill this become a moment to do the kindest and most meaningful gesture in the face of your day? Maybe...more

Dear Coffee Cup, Thank you for never talking back ...

“Thank you.”...more

What's Your Passion?: A Conversation to Have with the People You Care About

I came across this article yesterday and I think it is fantastic. You should read it. Go ahead, I’ll wait. …  It’s okay, take your time.  …  Good stuff, right? It was written by Alanna Rusnak....more

Let's talk!

 When I was a kid, sometimes my mom would overhear me asking friends, family, (people I just met), very personal questions....more


Life is like a song, like Simon and Garfunkel's The Dangling Conversation."It's a still life water color, Of a now late afternoon, As the sun shines through the curtained lace And shadows wash the room."...more

Comment, Commentary, Conversation, Story

Since this blog is new and since my other blog has a regular schedule going. I thought I would do something fun to get started this month on making sure to blog here as often as possible too. I love writing because it gives me chance to share my thoughts, ideas,  stories, and life. For years I have been fascinated with National Novel Writing Month.  Or as it is loving referred to by those that tackle it, NaNoWriMo.   I have even tried it a couple of times.  Always petering out somewhere in the middle of the challenge....more

When Should I Expect a Call After a First Date?

How soon after a first date should I expect a guy to send me a text? I’ve had guys text me right after saying they had a good time and others go days before sending me even a hello. Should I say something at the end of each date to make sure they’ll contact me?...more

Dating for Dummies: Women’s Edition

It’s here! After numerous exciting conversations, great photo exchanges and fun IMs, you finally have a date with the guy you’ve been chatting with.All is looking good, and the build up to this point has been amazing. But now what? Your palms grow sweaty as you start to think about what to say, what to wear, and you start to create stories in your head about......more

I Met a Guy But he Doesn’t Speak my Language. Could it Ever Work?

Well the good news is that body language is the universal language of love.  In fact, upon first impression and getting to know someone, 90% of communication is nonverbal so what you say is not necessarily as important as the signals that are presented.So, when two people have chemistry such as with this man you are describing......more

Let's Talk About Race - Who I Am

I was invited to participate in a discussion about race and my views on it and who I am.  This essay is my contribution to the discussion, my thoughts on race and who I am as a black woman. Check out the whole discussion that is going on by visiting Rachee Fagg of Say it "Rah-Shay" where this discussion will be taking place with many other bloggers. For some people, race is a topic, something that comes up from time to time....more