Son Of A......$#@%^

For those of you who read The Grief 365 Badge, this is the unexpected 4am follow up.  For those of you just tuning in, go and do your homework. Just kidding! My family will not be together this Thanksgiving Day.  My father had to work, my brother will go to his in laws house, my family has flown south with my in laws, to Florida to escape, and my mother will be having the time of her life spending Thanksgiving in heaven.  ...more

The Grief 365 Badge

 Well dear readers, I apologize for not having written lately.  I have been a bit tongue tied.  With the impending first anniversary of my mother's death, I have been purposefully been avoiding digging too deep.  I have had a couple of crying fits, and have been trying not to remember the details of the days leading up to the day of her death.  Those memories find a way of creeping in anyway.Well, today is the day I am ripping the band aid off.  No more avoiding writing about the first anniversary..... ...more

Massacre of the Innocents

Though a requirement for my Master's Degree, statistics have never been a strong suit for me.  I remember when first learning basic stats in high school there was mention about considering the stats rather than sample stories or examples because while the stories are compelling, they often do not show the bigger picture.  I know this to be true, and yet when I see statistics showing that gun violence is down since the 70s and 80s, that supposedly gun assaults and the US obsession with guns and other destructive weapons ...more

Lessons of April

 In April, 2012, we had one disaster after another hit. First, my husband ended up in the hospital with 190/130 blood pressure.  That was scary, and it was enough to cause us to make some major life changes.  We started eating better and exercising more.  The changes were sudden and drastic, but we did it.  However, don’t tell him he was overweight.  You DO NOT want to get him started!...more

Lucky Day

The car sitting on the street in front of our house when I woke up this morning had stalled. I took Phil (the dog) out for her morning squat and noticed the car there and a man and woman inside. He got out to ask if I had any jumper cables....more

So who are you NOW?

Currently "between positions" (nice way of saying laid off in the latest economic quagmire and looking for gainful employment), Karin started writing cooking in my heels to save sanity, share a life-long obsession with food and cooking, and put the voices bouncing around her brain on virtual paper. She (me) also likes making people laugh, occasionally think, and has to do something with all those shoes, so there you go. ...more

What not to say..

What I want you to know about miscarriage. At 25 my husband and I found out on mothers day that I was pregnant. I had woken up at 6ish that morning stumbling into the bathroom, I hardly remember opening up the packing of the pregnancy test. Next thing I know there are two lines, running into the bedroom, literally kicking my husband yelling at him telling him to get up. "Get up, I'm pregnant, and going to store." I said. He said "huh? what? okay, wait why are you going to the store." He confusingly replied. "Did you not hear me" I quipped back....more

You Only Get Away With That Because You're a Mom

As I walked outside yesterday, in an ill-fitting, hot pink pajama set with the pants hiked up to my boobs to keep from tripping over the legs, a lopsided ponytail, and just socks, to put something in our trash can, I began thinking about the freedom we mothers have. Now, I know what you're thinking. You're thinking about all the freedom we don't have. And I'll give you that. But take this trip with me here for a moment. Have you realized all the freedoms that we actually enjoy?...more
LOL! It's nice to know that I am not the only one who indulges in a handful of purse M&M's ;)more

Responses to Tragedy

This afternoon I was catching up on another episode of Awake (the fourth episode in the series). In this story line Detective Michael Britten interacts in both of his realities with a woman named Kate who babysat years ago for his now teenage son Rex (who is alive in one reality and dead in the other). In both scenarios Kate lost her sister in a surfing accident, but how she copes and deals with her sister's death and what that means for her life is very different in the two realities....more

Awake

Male Therapist: "So tell me how this works?"Detective Michael Britten: "I'm awake with my wife and I close my eyes, I open them and I'm awake with my son."Female Therapist: "And this has been happening since, the accident?"Male Therapist: "So you begin working on one case here, in reality, and then suddenly you begin working another case there, in your dream."Detective Michael Britten: "It completely feels real to me."...more
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