What I Learned from Irene & Billy-Joe-Bob

Well.  We made it through Hurricane Irene.  Our city looks like a war zone.  The damage is horrendous.  Had no idea.  The university here has shut down. {Universities usually don't shut down--unless the chancellor can't walk across the street from his house to his office.}...more

The Horizon of a Hand

A friend of mine recently told me something beautiful that I simply must share. First, I'll set some context, which is to say I'll grumble a bit. ...more

Blogiversary #2

Yesterday marked the 2 year anniversary of when I started this blog.  I started it because I was having difficulty coping, in every possible way.  I asked for advice but it wasn't enough.  I read some books, but it wasn't enough.  I looked online.  And I became afraid.  So, I decided to add my voice to the fray.  I didn't know who, if anyone, was ever going to see it.  But I would tell my story.  I would relate my experiences.  I would try to educate others. ...more

Another Day

The day draws closer and I feel more and more despondent. Yes, I think that is a good word. Despondent. How else should one feel when you have to celebrate Mother's Day and the birthday of your angel baby, all within 3 days of each other? I should be planning a party. Full of balloons and presents and sugary-frosted cake. I should be wrapping up new toys for a toddler boy who giggles and drools. I should be snapping pictures of a toddler boy that makes the diaper-waddle his own....more

What Women Do When They're Unhappy or Stressed...

I'm interested to know what you do when you're unhappy or stressed or confused about life.Do you read a book, take a walk, punch a pillow, pray? I'm more one to brood or sulk, and I need to get out of this habit! I'm compiling a list and then doing a blog post on my findings later this month. Thank you in advance ladies!http://kindlykate.blogspot.com/...more

I avoid everyone, decrankify with a good book, and eat chocolate. more

I think I've grown....

For some reason, today I've been rethinking what I've gone through over the last 2 years. From the moment that the developmental pediatrician told us that both Rachel and Simon were on the spectrum to me pushing for the votes for this blog to be recognized, what have I learned about myself? I was thinking about how much everything has both changed, and stayed the same. But I also started thinking about my own journey towards acceptance of my children's diagnosis. And realizing how much further I still have to go. ...more

5 Tips for Coping When Someone You Love Gets Angry About HAES

I had a very public Facebook exchange with my brother yesterday that was slightly startling. Why is it that people who believe that fat and health and mutually exclusive get so angry when you disagree? I mean, people who in most situations you can have a great conversation with even if you don't see eye-to-eye, see red if you challenge them on whether or not there is an obesity epidemic. So, how do you talk to someone you love who confronts you about your belief that you have the right to take up space without having death threats hurled at you?...more

If These Walls Could Talk

They would tell you about  a woman that is struggling to exist. As if just existing is the ultimate goal and not just a passing phase.  The walls would tell you that this woman is valiantly struggling with herself to put forth the effort needed to get up each day and make it through till nightfall, when she might find some respite from the nightmares that haunt her waking hours....more

Daniel Saved Me

Where would I be right now if I didn't have Daniel in my life 2 years ago? What did I do to deserve that (at the time) nearly 4-year old child? And how did he know what I needed him to do to keep me going at what was probably one of the hardest times of my life?...more

Six Months

Six months since you were born silently into this world. Six months. Sometimes it feels like it was just yesterday, other times it feels like it's been years. I didn't forget about this day, but I didn't dread it as much as the 13th's of previous months. I am sad and I miss you terribly, but this month the feelings of grief are not as heavy on my heart. ...more