Let She Who is Without Sin Never Raise a Child

I recently read a story about a mother who had Child Protective Services come to her house because of some sarcastic comments she made about her kid on her blog.  I read the actual entry, and it all seemed pretty innocuous to me.  Her subsequent treatment reminded me of Arthur Miller's The Crucible.  It took just one overly-righteous reader crying Sinner! and suddenly her whole family was subjected to interrogation and cast under a shroud of suspicion. Very Salem witch trial-esque if you ask me....more
@We Band of Mothers Hahaha! Me too :)more

CPS Showed Up at My Door: An On-Going Lesson in Consequences

I received a knock on my door this afternoon, and when I answered it I was met by a small, blonde woman who announced that she was from child protective services and she needed to talk to me. If you've never had that experience (and I hope you never have), let me try to describe how it feels. Your heart starts racing. Your mind starts spinning, frantically trying to recall something -- anything -- that could warrant a visit from CPS. I was in full panic mode, but trying my very best to hold it together. Or to at least not pass out....more
I am so sorry. This happened to me (not b/c of a blog post but a crazy neighbor I will write ...more

Attend Every Parenting Class

  If you’ve been assigned to Parenting Classes, make sure you attend every one. Show up early, bring a notebook and pen, read the material, do the homework. Participate in every discussion and ask questions. Most of all listen and understand what is being taught. It is valuable information. You are there to learn.   It would appear to most Social Workers that you need to learn to be a parent. Parenting doesn’t come naturally to everyone, therefore it would be wise to listen and ask questions. You won’t be condemned for asking questions....more

CPS Facts (Series #1)

              There are entire government agencies devoted to protecting children against their own parents. According to the Department of Health and Human Services, there were 408,452 children in foster care as of September 30, 2010. Just less than half a million kids live with care givers who are not their parents. Numbers are improving. In 2006 there were 510,000 children in the foster care system....more

Our First Full Weekend with Laila

Well, thanks to some red tape, Laila still hasn't gotten to move in yet. She will now be moving in next week. All I know right now is that it will be after Wednesday but as soon as possible after that. On the bright side, we did get to have her for this whole weekend. Friday night we went to dinner at a local fast food place and the kids were great. When we got home they played well together and had a good time. We didn't have any problems until bedtime. Elizabeth and Clay fell asleep right on schedule but Laila didn't seem to be tired at all....more

Update on Laila

While I was sitting in carline today, waiting to pick my kids up from school, I got a call from Laila's social worker. She said that our all day visit with Laila can be this Saturday. I was thrilled because this is our son's birthday and she will get to experience a fun family day with us. She then floored me with her next statement. She told me that if all goes well at the all day visit Laila can move in next week! That is great news! The sooner we get her here the better. We are supposed to call her foster mother tomorrow to set up the visit. I am a bit intimidated by this....more

The Plan for Laila

I called Laila's worker this morning to find out what the next step is. Even though we have adopted from foster care once before it was much different. Elizabeth was an "emergency placement", meaning the day we met her is the day she came to live with us. Laila's placement with us is more traditional, consisting of pre-placement visits. So far we've only done the "meet and greet"....more

Meeting Laila

Where to begin? Today was wonderful! We finally got to meet Laila. She was just as beautiful as I had hoped she would be. She has a smile that can light up a room. We got to McDonalds a few minutes early to discover that the playplace was closed! When Laila and her social worker arrived we decided to go to Burger King so the kids could play together. At first, she was acting a bit shy and hiding behind the social worker but it didn't take long for her to warm up to us. I think having kids her own age there helped her to feel more comfortable....more

We had an all day visit today and it was great. When it was time to take her back to her foster ...more

Our Meeting with DHR

Today we had a meeting at Jefferson County DHR with an adoption social worker. She actually shares her office with our daughter's former social worker. We went down to discuss a possible placement. She told us all about this little girl named Laila. She is 5 years old and has had multiple placements. She is currently in a foster placement that is not a very good match. The foster parents do not want to adopt her. From what I can tell they seem to think a 5 year old should act like a little adult. As you can imagine, that's not working out for them....more

The Call......Again!

In May of 2009, I recieved a call that would change my life forever. It was the call that my social worker had found a child that matched our family profile. It was the call that led to the adoption of my daughter, Elizabeth. I will never forget that day. I was at my son's karate lesson when I got "the call". Yesterday I got another call. This time our social worker was calling to tell us she had matched another child to our family profile. We go early next week to a full disclosure meeting....more