Susan’s Ashes

Have I been spending too much time while I’m alive worrying about what will become of my body after I die? I would like my daughters to chime in on this, but they avoid the topic of my ashes as though it were pink slime....more

A codicil

Okay, so if you've been hanging around this joint for the last few years, you've probably read about my final wishes once I've shuffled off this mortal coil.And I'm not even joking you....more

Killing Her Softly

I don’t want to get out of bed. I’m afraid to actually.  If I get up, I’ll have to look out the window.  Then I’ll know.  If my dog is alive or not.              “If she’s dead in the morning,” husband had said, “I’ll put her in the Honda and take her to work.  So you all don’t have to--  You know . ....more

Hey Kitty: Just found your kind remarks. Thanks so much. Rainbow Bridge is sweet. One of the ...more

Eternal Reefs A Beautiful Continuation Of Life

I always joking refer to myself as a mermaid because I am the happiest when I am in the water. As a native Floridian we were always at the beach, heck I was born in a beach community. Even when I lived in Texas we made three to four pilgrimages to Galveston ever summer. I finally received my diving certification while on a vacation in 2001 to the French Polynesia Islands around Bora Bora and Tahiti. As soon as I dropped out of the dive destination dingy, I put on my mask to look into the water and could not believe the world that was unfolding right before my eyes. Wow!...more

Things That Come in Boxes


Talking with your loved ones about their own funerals.

We all have to face that horrible day when someone we love dies. There is also a huge amount of planning that must be done in the heat of the worst sudden grief. There is the selection of a funeral home, and identifying and dealing with arrangements at a cemetery. There are trips to the florist, decisions about what to say in the obituary. Is there or is there not a memorial service or funeral? Is it in a church, a hall, a home, graveside? How much to spend? How little? What kind of flowers? Who are the pallbearers? Are there pallbearers at all, or it a cremation? ...more

You have experienced the contrast, so it is excellent that you posted about it -- because you ...more