As seen on TV: Doofus Dads

I know a lot of sitcoms from the 1980s: The Cosby Show, Growing Pains, Webster, Small Wonder, Whose the Boss?, My Two Dads, Diff'rent Strokes, Family Ties, The Wonder Years...there are a lot of them. Their theme songs get stuck in my head sometimes and I can recall a fair amount of the plot lines. I can also recall that they were fun for the whole family to watch....more

Why you are your mother

Somewhere in the ever-growing list of apologies to my Mother, I am making a point. (It's subtle, but it's there.) The point is that my Mom knew what she was doing when she was raising me and that she showed me lots of love and support every day. Those are just a few of the reasons I find myself incorporating some of the things she did into my own parenting style....more

11 Things Dads Don't Do

1. Fingernails. Think for a minute: when was the last time your husband a) noticed one of your kids' fingernails had become jagged little weapons or b) searched for one of the dozen pairs of fingernail clippers wedged between the couch cushions to trim them back? My husband wears with pride his refusal to touch this task with a ten foot pole. Maybe he's seen me struggling with wiggly toddlers and minuscule baby claws one too many times?...more

Baby Number 4 is on the Way: Are We the Duggars of NYC?

As we were sitting on the couch in post-confrontational silence, my wife reached into her bag and pulled out a pregnancy test. I stared back at the plus sign. I hadn’t seen it coming. A slow buildup of stomach acid, mixed with other junk, churned in my stomach and rotated from my throat and back. My hands trembled as I handed the test back to my wife. Her eyes reflected the churning of my stomach. Four kids. Four kids in New York City. As far as New York standards go, you might as well be a Duggar if you have that many....more

5 Meaningful Ways To Spend Father's Day With Dad

Father’s Day doesn’t have to be just another hallmark holiday or a rushed brunch in a crowded restaurant. This father’s day, forego the usual frenetic pace of shopping for the perfect gift and long lines at dining establishments. Tailor your day with dad to create memories that linger long after Father’s day has come and gone....more

How to speak the language of Mom

Mmmmmmmmm....mah...mah...mah! Mmmmmmmmm....mah...mah...mah! That is an approximation of the sounds I often made at my son when he was about four months old. As I made those sounds, I gave him a big smile to show him how much fun it was to make those sounds. ...more

Steph and Riley: Why it Matters

There's a small movement toward making families the epicenter of our society again. I can feel the undercurrent of "this is no longer acceptable" as a resounding cry of those leading the charge to take back our future and make it right.  Parents have begun to say “here I am” employers, media, government… “here I am, this is me”....more

Daddy issues on a whole new level

My husband is a wonderful man. (And that is not just because he reads this blog.) He is a supportive spouse, an intelligent person and a fantastic father. In our hurried life, we pass messages via text, talk while he is standing in the kitchen and cozy up on the couch together. I hope that he feels the same level of support from me that I feel from him. ...more

RIP Oren Miller, Dad Blogger Extraordinaire

I don't believe there are good and bad humans. Probably I'm naive, but I believe in good humans and less-good humans: humans who are weak, damaged, hurt, unloved, hungry, addicted, mentally ill or otherwise not their best selves. ...more
DoTryThisAtHome JoAnneApple I didn't, but I'm not surprised. We like to think ourselves so ...more

Power Cords & Kids: Things You Shouldn't Leave At The Office

Just this afternoon I arrived home from a day in San Francisco. A group of us traveled there on the prowl for great new flavors and ate at seven restaurants in just under six hours. It was not for the weak-of-stomach. ...more