Dating: A Contemplation of Self

I have been doing a lot of thinking lately, and I have had lots of horrendous luck in the dating and man attracting arena all of my life.  I am encroaching upon my 30th person in a few short months and I am truly curious about what I am projecting out into the universe to attract such horrible luck.  I had posed this question to my facebook friends and received a lot of wonderful perceptions and insights from others.  I wanted to share some of my thoughts and excerpts of some of those comments.Here is my original question:...more

It’s POF Time, Kids!

So. There’s this thing that exists that I refer to as “POF time” and I really first encountered it when Daniel came into the picture. It’s like dog years, the speed of light and the Ferris Bueller quote about life all rolled up into one online dating Lucy axiom. Ish. It is def one of those things no one tells anyone else about. There’s no warning when you create your profile and I’ve never read anything about it. For the love of God people - where's the goddamn dating manual??...more

Let’s Have That Sex Talk Now, Kids.

I’m writing about sex today because it’s on my mind. And not in a good way. And it’s SEX, dude. If I’m thinking about it or you’re thinking about it, it SHOULD BE in a fucking good way, amiright? But it’s me here so let’s get real. Sigh. ...more
DatewithLucy haha!  Lucy you are the best!  Thanks for your POV.  Yeah---hit the gym last night ...more

My Future Ex-Husbands

Since getting divorced, I've been making a list of my future ex-husbands. I feel it's good to have goals and be prepared when opportunity strikes....more

Dating for the Sake of Dating

I think this is something we all do at some point in our lives. We don’t want to be lonely so we just date. It’s not like we’re in love with the person or even overly attracted to them, but we want to date so we date them. It’s no big thing, right? I’m not sure that it isn’t a big thing for me.This is what I've done for the past two years. Ever since my ex and I broke up, I've been on a lot of first dates. A lot of those first dates never became second dates. Most of them were lackluster for lack of a better term. And with 90% of them, I never contacted the person again. ...more
Dating just to date is along the same plain as "loving for love sake."  Time is too precious to ...more

And Then There Were Two.

Now we’re at the beginning of my one and only POF summer o’ love which is so irritating because who doesn’t look better dating tanned, flip flopped and tiny dressed? Hello. I was hanging out with B and having FUN for the first time since I went on the fucking site, literally, but oc my profile was still up and I was still active. OC. And that’s when Daniel messaged me. ...more

4 Practical Ways to Clear Your Mind After a Fight

Your significant other did something you didn’t like or you got into a fight and you’re ready to call it quits. You know you are feeling emotional and you are trying not to make any rash decisions, but if you don’t do something, like right now, you’re going to blow this up.So you try to talk about it with your partner, but the conversation doesn’t get very far. It’s one of those moments where you just can’t seem to understand each other and you can’t figure out how to solve the issue at hand....more
So curious how does one over come being jealous? How do I deal with my husband always looking at ...more

Date. Document. Repeat.

 I gotta say, it’s been an odd life since I began blogging about dating while still dating. I mean, it’s not like I’m trying to be a neutral third party observer; I am Lucy and Lucy is me, just me in HD....more
DatewithLucy adelewishnot  hmmm--dating fatigue.  What an interesting term!  though for me it's ...more

Dating 101: How Long Should You Wait To Have Sex?

A Time Out Survey set out to answer the tough questions of dating. They asked their readers, “after how many dates is it appropriate to have sex?” and the answer may surprise you.1 in 10 people consider sex a reasonable request at the end of a first date, but the worldwide average answer was 3.53 dates. That means somewhere between the end of your third date and the beginning of your fourth, sex is appropriate....more
SicilianQueen84 is it weird that i find that impressive?  I think the hookup culture is ...more