Delivering news in person isn't always preferred

Why is it that people always feel the need to tell you important news in person? Furthermore, why is it considered the polite thing to do? In most cases there's nothing wrong with inviting people over to tell them you're getting married or sitting down with your parents to announce a pregnancy -- and in most circumstances I get why it's preferred. You want to be there to see the reactions on their face and share in the excitement. But it's not always the best way to go about things. Especially when you're dealing with announcing a pregnancy to a couple that struggles with infertility. ...more

The Journey Begins

How did we get here - to this room with the large desk and the table with the three chairs?  How did we get here - to having a doctor sketch out my reproductive system and adding a new list of acronyms to the standards we already knew. ...more

Mother’s Day: Thoughts on Infertility

When husband and I first decided to have a baby, I just assumed I’d have as much control over it as I had over NOT having a baby.  Birth control is a misleading name for contraception.  There is actually very little control you have over the timing on when you will give birth....more

Oh my how time has flown

I realize it's been some time since I last posted.  During the last two years my husband and I have struggled to conceive.  Some days I find it easier to share than others.  Not because of of shame or fear of judgement but because some days it takes all my will to make it through the day without breaking down.  If you asked any of my friends, I was the last person you'd expected to settle down and get married. That all changed when I met my husband/partner in life....more

Surprised by Joy: Living Into an Unexpected Pregnancy

This is a different pregnancy....more

Can you have a mid-life crisis at 24??

Please forgive this initial long blog- There isn't a "brief" history here.. My husband and I married in the fall of 2010 and almost as soon as we exchanged vows my need/desire for children has consumed most of my waking thoughts (and even some of my dreams). I found out when I was 21 that I had fertility issues, which I had an inkling of since I have never had a normal menstrual cycle (I could literally go 2 years w/o one), but really hadn't thought much of it....more


I'm aware I could be more sensitive because of my secondary infertility background - it took many years, lots of tests, pain, tears, money and effort to have our son. I'll also admit I might be a bit more sensitive since even though my son resembles and acts like me, he's white. So I don't like it when we go out and people ask, 'who's child is that?' and someone else jokingly pipes up, 'mine.'Because often, the other person is white, and therefore other people believe them. I am very proud of my son. He was a real labour of love....more

Fertility Friday 1

Let’s see how this works for all of you out there trying.  My memory of the strenuous two years of trying to have my own family is a very blurry one.  What I remember were the endless trips to Annapolis. Two hours there, two hours back.  Most months I would leave my house at 5:00 in the morning to make it to the Dr....more

Before Klout Scores and Stats: The Blogging Beginning

I was burning with things to say. I was sad. I was broken. Shattered and disappointed. I felt so alone. I could not have a child. So I sat at this computer and I typed. ...more
As a relatively new blogger, thank you for reminding me of the passion and what is so great ...more

A Letter to my Daughter

Dear Daughter,...more