Honoring my dad’s birthday

Growing up the month of June was all about my dad.  He was the only one in my immediate family with a June birthday and we celebrated Father’s day, too.  Needless to say, I’ve been thinking and talking about him a lot this week.  This August it will be a year since his passing so we have almost made it through all the ‘firsts’ without him....more

When Did We Get Old?

My friend's father passed away earlier this week. Although I haven't seen him in years, but I remember him clearly from growing up. He was that patient man who avoided our girlish craziness at sleepovers. He gave me a job at his gas station when I was in high school. He was a good man and will be missed. I feel so sad for my friend that she no longer has him in her life....more

Back from Bereavement Leave

Since I work as a small business owner and independent contractor, I don't actually get bereavement leave. So that's something of a joke. Gallows humor, I suppose.  ...more

Mothering your father

At the age of 46 my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. At the age of 51 mom received her five year "all clear." At the age of 54 mom was diagnosed with lung cancer. At the age of 56 she died. I was 29 years old. My father was 70.On mom's death bed, in her raspy voice, all but silenced by vocal paralysis, she croaked to the hospice attendant, "my daughter has been my mother since she was 12."...more

Birthday parties and a funeral

“Presents don’t really mean much to me. I don’t want to sound mawkish, but – it was the realization that I have a great many people in my life who really love me, and who I really love.” – Gabriel ByrneSomehow, I have made it through “The Year of Firsts.”It was July 24, 2011, in the very early hours of the morning, that Dad was called to be with the Lord. At 1:40 a.m., he ceased to breathe on this side of Heaven, and continued his pain-free journey with those he loved who had gone on before him....more

My Daddy is being called home to God

TODAY – RIGHT NOW – ANY SECOND God is preparing to call my daddy home....written by me on 7/5/12 in the middle of the day.  I felt the need to take a moment, sit down, so that I could sort through my thoughts about everything that was happening around me.  Before bed, step mom and I read and discussed my writing...my thoughts about dad...her husband. This morning she asked that I share my writing with all.  She is my number one fan as I transition into the next phase of my life as a writer......more
That the two of you made peace with one another is a really huge gift - and blessing - and the ...more

The one where I'm a wee bit needy

Diannebug  I am running on exactly three hours of sleep. I woke up from a crummy dream and decided it was best if I not revisit dreamland for the time being.You see, I lost my mom nearly ten years ago. Okay lost is not the best word, it sounds like I misplaced her. Anyway, she died. I was seventeen and occasionally I drift back there and feel all of seventeen all over again. Let's be honest, who really wants that? I do not....more

Of Ponies, Life, and Laughter

November was not typical for me and my family.I’m wondering how much of what happened this month I should write down. What do I want to remember? What should I try to forget? Don’t worry, I’m not thinking about putting it all in this post. I wouldn’t do that to you.Some of this is going to be sad, so you don’t have to keep reading if you don’t want to. But not all of it is sad....more
@Reda I can't imagine how you must have felt to lose your dad at such a young age. I was lucky ...more

The Bereavement Party

Five years ago, my mother died. Cancer is an evil foe. Fortunately for Mom, he was relatively swift one; it was less than four months from her diagnosis to the day she died. ...more

That was beautiful. Thank you for sharing that! Good for you throwing that party in your mothers ...more