As a mom of two boys, I have high hopes of teaching them many important lessons. Things like compassion and acceptance, the importance of education and hard work, the benefit of a leap of faith versus never trying due to fear of failure, and of course, respect. Respect remains one of those Big Things in our home -- for all people, in all ways, both physically and emotionally. You don't get to be a jerk just because you think you can, neither do you get to put your hands on someone else. As such, my gut-reaction to the now viral letter that Mrs. Hall wrote to teenage girls posting "seductive" selfies on Instagram and thus tempting her precious sons... well... I'm having a hard time with the general concept.
When The Kid was little, I was petrified that something would happen to my little girl, and she wouldn't know what to do.
I wanted to equip her for anything... bad touches, peer pressure, bullying, drugs, kidnapping. We played with dolls and acted things out, role-played scenes, and had mini-conversations. If it was suggested in a parenting magazine, I did it. Not obsessively, because I didn't want her to grow up to be a bigger freak than her DNA already assured she would be, but just enough that she would *hopefully* feel in control if something were to come up.
When I was a teenager, my mother was so intimidated by our VCR, she asked me to write down instructions on how to program it. She still calls for frequent tech support, often wanting to know how to use her cell phone or her cable service. Even though VCRs have gone the horse-and-buggy route, this drama plays itself out every day in America, with tech-savvy kids leading fearful parents through the land of technology. The “digital divide”—the gulf between the tech-knowledgeable and the tech-ignorant—is alive and well in many families, due to technophobia, lack of time, and other factors.
I thought I lived in a pretty average suburb of Washington DC - but no. Apparently, I live in a bubble.It's a comfortable, gentle, accepting sort of bubble, and inside it everyone I know either feels the same way as I do about parenting issues, or is too polite to mention that they don't. Even my Facebook friends contrive to make me think there is no dissent anywhere: we all appreciate the same hilarious e-cards, we all Like each other's jaded parenting updates, and we all commiserate in harmony when someone's kids are sick....more
Have you ever seen an Infant in the airplane, shopping Mall, restaurant playing with their parent’s I-Pad or I-Phone? Worse still, are you a parent to one? If yes, then you are not alone. The talk about age compression with application enabled toys started as early as 1990’s with the coming of Video games. There was an ongoing debate that introducing children to Video games and computers at a young age of 10 years was taking a toll on their physical fitness and imagination levels....more
I love what's 'shiny and new', then over time, the 'object of my affection' becomes just another 'old hat'. Take Facebook for example. Now that EVERYONE has a Facebook page for their blog, keeping up with all of them becomes a chore.
I've heard so much about Blogher and I'm excited to finally set up an account and see what it's about. After having been through Yahoo Groups, BBSs, and MySpace, and now being on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Blogspot, and Wordpress (and others), I'm not sure that a new social media is really what I need but...it's raining outside and I thought I'd try it.First reaction, my main interest is a little hard to find. I'm mostly interested in getting input on educating my kids and digital media for education. I found three tags in different places that apply:...more
I recently confessed on my blog that my husband and I are extremely irresponsible with money. He was not at all pleased that I outed him to the world because, as he stated, it is inconsistent with his branding. He likes to give the impression that we have it all together. Since the name of my blog is "I Am A Mess," I'm pretty sure my inability to save a dollar is consistent with my branding, so I've decided to hide out over here on BlogHer, where I know he won't find me....more