Has Your Child Formed A Habit Of Being Disrespectful To You Or Other Family Members? Here's What To Do:

MY DAUGHTER IS ALMOST 9 AND IS CONSTANTLY DISRESPECTFUL TO ME AND TO OTHERS. HOW SHOULD I DEAL WITH IT?photocreditMOLLY: This is a question from a mom in Wisconsin and she added that she knows that she should look for the root of the matter but she is not even sure her daughter knows WHY she is so disrespectful....more

You Might Want To Think Twice About Using Guilt To Control Your Kids' Behavior:


My Mind Goes Blank When I Parent with an Audience

There was a time, before I had kids and when Miss was very small, when I believed I knew all there was to know about disciplining a toddler or preschooler. I watched other people do it with their own kids, and sometimes thought to myself all the reasons they weren't doing it right. I didn't get all caught up in judgment, but did have passing thoughts like, "My kid will do what I tell her, when I tell her," and "Wow, I would never put up with that kind of behavior," or "Geez, that mom is so rude to her kids!" I thought I had all the disciplining answers. I am a psychologist, after all. I had studied Skinner and Watson and Hull and Thorndike and could rattle off all sorts of stuff about behavioral principles. I used to teach seminars about the use of these principles with kids and adult patients. I had it all figured out....more
NOPE my children know i dont play and they know the rules and what will happen if they get out ...more

Dealing with Discipline

One of the things that I come up against most often as a nanny is the idea of discipline. Everyone seems to be afraid that a nanny is going to take it too far and turn simple discipline into abuse. I’m here to tell you that that is really not the case in about 90% of cases – most of us would never lay a hand on a child, and never have. I certainly have never spanked, hit, or otherwise manhandled a child. Why? Because it’s not my place. I’ve been given permission to do so, but it horrified me....more

Disciplining Children: My New Referee Kit

  “You’ve got your hands full,” the mechanic at the auto service center told me as I was paying for my oil change.“Yes I do,” I responded, as my boys poked each other, giggled and ran around the small office....more

That fine parenting line...do you cross it?

It's been rainy, gloomy, and gross here the past couple of days. Making less than ideal conditions for us to be outside playing, or to be outside in general. We've been cooped up in the house together going crazy and one can only go to Target so many times with kids before losing ones mind (trust me, I know firsthand). So needless to say, I jumped at the chance to visit a "friend" and her children for a playdate/lunch date to get the hell out of the house....more

Disciplining Grandchildren

Grandmas shouldn’t have to discipline. I’m glad because I've never been good at it. As a parent, I was a pushover. If I had to do it again, I'd try much harder to be consistent and stricter. But now that I'm a grandparent it’s even harder—I hate saying "no." ...more

Discipline an Older Teen? My Son and the Get-Out-of-Jail Sheet

You may have heard that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly but expecting different results. From that reference point, I decided I needed to change how I disciplined my teen son or run away from home, and I also needed to answer one question: Is it ever too late to teach a teen the right lesson? What had I been doing? For years I had been handing out penalties like no TV, no Internet access, no video games for X amount of time. ...more