I Didn't Think I'd Make it to #BlogHer15

What I Learned at #BlogHer15...more

Monday Morning Motivation.."Complete in Christ". The Pain The Journey The Joy

The PainI have heard divorce described in may ways....more

10 Things Every Divorced Person Needs You To Know

We all know someone who's divorced or divorcing or thinking about it. When we hear a couple is splitting, we feel a momentary sadness for them and then move on to our next task. Why? Because divorce isn't shocking anymore. It's become an unfortunate rite of passage for nearly 50 percent of us. But the numbers mean little to the people who have gone -- or are going -- through the process. The strength in numbers thing doesn't apply to divorce because each and every divorce is uniquely decimating....more

3 1/2 years and 2 days

Paul and I have now been married 3 1/2 years and 2 days.  A weird thing to point out, I understand.  Only yesterday while I was driving to work something occurred to me.  We have officially been married longer than my ex and I were when we broke up.  ...more

Should You Change Your Last Name After Divorce?

Should you change your last name after divorce?When I got married, I took my husband’s name just like so many women do.I thought that once divorced, it would be easy to go right back to my maiden name. But now... I’m not so sure. There is a problem: I have a child. If I go back to my maiden name, we will have different last names. I’m not really concerned about what others think, I’m just worried about what she thinks.Will she feel distant from me?Will she feel abandoned?Will she even care?...more
Hi all--I kept my married name, my daughters were very young at the time of divorce and given ...more

Reunited! And Silly Family Stories...

The girls came yesterday, and I couldn’t be more happy! Their little faces, their voices saying, “mommy!” oh geez, my heart about melted out of my chest. Ladybug bounded up to me in pre-school and said, “mommy, I missed you so so so much!  I haven’t seen you for a long, long, long time!’” and she promptly jumped into my arms.  When we got home, A was also home from work, and Ladybug jumped into his arms (rather onto his shoulders) and didn’t leave for an hour.  ...more

Divorced or Single?

A friend of mine posted on her FB: it’s been 8 years since my divorce, so at the doctor’s office, I checked “single” rather than “divorced.”  I feel single, not divorced.  Does it matter?The reply comments ran along the lines of—well, it’s probably to keep medical records straight, especially if you used different names, so check divorced. ...more

Speak Kindly of Me

Beautiful. thank you for sharing your goodbye.more

I will get there one day, or the Black Hole,

Or, “How to Cope when your Kids are on an Extended Visitation.”  I know what I’m supposed to do—be open minded and happy and supportive.  Knowing time with the other parent is important for the children and good for them (when he is behaving well).  (I wonder when the caveat, the fear will end?) ...more

Fumbling towards peace...

Lately, I’ve been having a really hard time navigating our roller coaster.  In part, it’s the usual stressors of parenting and waking up in the middle of the night because someone had a bad dream.  Working full time with deadlines and projects and supervising staff.  Managing the manipulative Exie trying to encroach on my week end while using the ‘best interests of the children’ line, when it’s clear he’s talking about himself, not them.  Residual PTSD from the last hearing and bracing for the new one that is on the horizon.  My hubby back and forth...more