Eleven random things you learn going to divorce court in Los Angeles.

Last week I got to spend time at  one of Los Angeles’ busiest downtown hotspots. Los Angeles Superior Court’s Stanley Mosk Courthouse. This is the court for anyone getting divorced within Los Angeles County. Let’s just call it hell for short. Yep, as you can imagine, it is one busy, busy place. I learned many things during last week’s journey to Divorce Court in downtown LA. Some good. Some not so much. But life lessons and insights all the same that I will pass along to you....more

8 Reasons Divorce Worked for Me

 Image: Cat Whelan via DivorcedSuperMum.com DIVORCE:A word that sends shudders through many couples who will agonisingly try to stay together when it’s clearly painful for everyone.Divorce isn’t necessarily the black hole of disaster you have imagined it to be. Here are a few reasons why:...more
I divorced more than 20 years ago and I've never gone back into a relationship that required me ...more

25 ways to recognise a Divorced Super Mum


I Finally Stopped Apologizing to My Kids for Divorcing Their Dad

My happiness vs. what I thought would be my kids happiness...   That is the place I was in, while considering leaving my husband. A decision I did not take lightly, an agonizing, heart breaking, painful decision. How could I take my children away from their Dad, how could I break up all they knew as a family. It simply came down to what I truly wanted for my children. Their happiness....more
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Just the Beginning

There are two things that are wrong with women.  One, they have been programmed by society to believe in fairytales, which makes us idiots and susceptible to lies and two we were made to have children which makes us susceptible to EVERYTHING. Don’t let us fool you, if one of say we are a feminist is it merely just one of us trying to rebel against the programming in some sort of way or hoping that by saying we are strong, independent women, who don’t need a man in their lives and who won’t be reeled in by the stupidity of it all we will just miraculously fi...more

5 Ways to Tell If You're Oversharing Online

That blog post where the writer blasts her soon-to-be-ex-in-laws as being insensitive and possessing the personalities of doorstops? Absolutely riveting. The entry where a blogger laments her spouse's lack of attention, or rather, the lavish attention he pays to everything BUT her? Emotionally raw and unable to ignore.But when you're the one who's doing the writing, and your loved one (or ones) is the target of the gripes or overexposure in, say, a photo -- is the potential relationship damage worth the spike in Internet traffic generated by your candidness or quirky snapshot?...more
I completely agree, so many people have their whole lives and that of their family on the ...more

Woman, Wife, Whore & Spirituality - Part One

Realization came, late and still unwelcomed.I am not present.Not in my newly renovated apartment, not eating dinner in my parents' house, not checking my daughter's homework and finding out how she is coping in her new school. Not involved with my dad's companies. Not catching up with my close friends in Bangsar. Not madly rushing from the airport to another meeting....more

New Love

i've done it! I think I made it through. I've moved past him and most of the hurt. It took new love to make me let go. I want to love my new guy so badly, i had to let go of the old crappy stuff. He has helped me. He has healed me. I can't believe I finally made it here.I'm engaged  and will be  married very soon.Chin up! More very soon.Suzi Q...more

The Light at the end of a long, dark tunnel

When you're about to get married you feel all sorts of things: Happiness. . Butterflies. . Fear. . Excitement. . Anxiety. . but more than anything LOVE. Now, that I am officially divorced - don't get all shocked, it's a WONDERFUL thing - I went back and read the last post I wrote before getting married 11 months ago, and I noticed something SO profound, I wish I would've caught it then. - http://lifeasitdoes.blogspot.com/2012/02/tomorrow-is-day.html. I never said I felt loved. . or was in love. . Which is good. ....more

I Like it Raw : Writing Where I'm At

In life, our identities change all the time. Often it is a welcome shift. Single to partnered, childless to parent, vegetarian to flesh-eater. It's all relative. Those examples happen to be mine, but we all have them. And often, when we shed an identity, a new one is close by in the wings and quickly donned. We do this because, well, floating around without a definitives feels ... loose. We are categorized by how we define ourselves and there is comfort in that. It's safe....more