Whoever Tells You NOT to Wear Your Heart on Your Sleeve After a Divorce - Can Kick A Wall.

Dear Carmen, Recently, my marriage of 22 years suddenly came to a halt. My husband walked out of me and our children and I feel as though I cannot go on. To add salt to this painful wound, I've been advised not to wear my heart on my sleeve so as not to burden others with my sadness and anger. Other divorcees tell me they've "been there, done that" and I should be looking forward to a better life? I am at a loss. How am I expected to act like all is well? I don't want to burden anyone else, but I can't help it. I don't know what to do. Sincerely, ...more

Sins of The Father

The holidays are supposed to be all about family and forgiveness. Or at least that’s what all the Hallmark cards say. If there was ever a certain time of year to “bury the hatchet”, that time of year would be Christmas. Most of you who read my blog know that I have never, ever talked about my father. There’s a very good reason for that, he was never really a part of my life. I doubt he ever will be....more
AussaLorens That is the truth. You always know who your real family is. It's a shame really but ...more

Between The Breakup and The Divorce: The Truth About Separation

I was standing in the backyard of my mothers house when I told my husband I didn’t want to be married to him any more. It was a couple of days after I had found about about the affair… and a few minutes after he admitted that he had told the girl he had been seeing that he didn’t love me. This was after he told me what he said was true, that he didn’t love me any more.It was a few minutes after my heart had been smashed into a thousand pieces. ...more
Thanks for this genuine and blunt perspective.more

Newbie blogger makes a leap into the unknown

It's a little surprising and an emotional challenge for me to make a commitment to blogging in the month of November. Mostly because I consider this month to be a challenging time of year for me due to past experiences or what I consider some of my worst life experiences....more

An Open Letter to My Friend's Ex-Wife

I can't write you for real, because I don't trust you not to use any correspondence from me to win some trivial argument with my friend.  When it comes to divorces as nasty as yours has been there is no neutral ground; everyone is forced to choose a side, and I am clearly lined up behind my friend....more
Letter from his girlfriend, to his ex.more