f/16: One Woman's Journey to Bring Life into Focus

f/16 is a memoir. It began as a book about women who are photojournalists but evolved, out of necessity and the encouragement of some incredible people, into a narrative that also includes me. And, so too has the title evolved. f/16 is a setting on a camera's aperture. There's something known as the "sunny f/16 rule" that assists with correct exposure of difficult subjects....more

Finding Your Place In The World

Sometimes you may feel as if you don't fit in anywhere. It's not that you stand out from the crowd, it's just a feeling that you're not the same as everyone else. No one would separate you as being different, for you're not sharing who you really are. You have tried to blend in with the norm for so long that you may find it challenging to be yourself. Who are you and where do you belong? Being unique may be easier than you think. When you were younger, it was important to be like everyone but you are no longer there....more

This is what you've missed

Next month would have been our 20th wedding anniversary. Would have, of course, being the operative words. If only, if only. If only it had lasted. If only I could have seen what was going on, if only you had been brave enough and kind enough to have talked to me about what you were feeling. What you were missing. What you were wanting.If only....more
Great essay. I loved how well you wrote it. I appreciate the eerily accurate and sentimental ...more

9 months to go

Continued from Gay Marriage ended my Marriage... Today marks one month since we became roommates and stopped being a married couple.  It isn't easy.  Last night there were tears from both of us. More about life and the feeling of not having that other half to share with about struggles and situations than about our situation.  How do you handle holding someone you're no longer a spouse or partner to?...more

Life Beyond The Words "I Don't Love You Anymore"

It was the year 2000 and I was facing one of the worst periods of my life.  In less than two years I'd lost both my father and grandfather.  Thrown into that mix, I was blindsided by the words, "I don't want to be married to you anymore" followed by "I'm seeing someone else". He said these things to me in the convenience of a moving vehicle headed towards a vacation spot I thought we'd  been looking forward to for months....more
Goosebumps.  Congratulations on your happiness and independence.more