How Do You Redefine Yourself After A Big Life Change?

Sitting in the middle of my half-empty apartment, I take the knife and cut the tape on the next box. I open it slowly, savoring the discovery process. Buried in a sea of handkerchiefs, I find my top hat. ...more

My dear, thank you for that e-mail with the words I wrote to you in 2004, by the way. I want ...more

Online Affiliate Marketing Has Enabled Me to Earn a Living While Looking After My Children

My husband struck mid-life crisis the year he turned 50 . His behaviour towards me changed drastically. While he had encouraged me to stay at home when the children were young and I couldn't work while we lived abroad, he started resenting that I could not get a job when we returned home.  He did not want me to work in a supermarket or in retail, so my options were limited. ...more

Young Women Need to Be Selective not Selected

As you know, if you’ve read my very first post, that I share joint custody of my two girls with my ex.  Just recently, the jerk that is my ex husband decided to quit working so that his parenting time wouldn’t be reduced to only weekends.  This resulted in the judge ’awarding’ us 50/50 parenting time.  So now, I have the girls from Saturday to Wednesday (4 nights) and he has Wednesday to Saturday (3 nights).  ...more

Great post and good reminders, although I disagree about not marrying in your 20s... I ...more

Forbes: "Five Things Every Married Woman Needs to Hear About Divorce"

photo courtesy of offers up tips for helping make divorce "more manageable in the long run." ...more

Co-Parenting ABCs: You are Not Charles Barkley…Or, Why You Must Cooperate With Your Ex

Perhaps it was the poet and philosopher Sir Charles Barkley who said it most famously in 1993: "I am not a role model." Since then, other athletes, musicians, actors, and random "socialite" heiresses have told us with their words and deeds, "Raise your own damn kids. Not my job." Let's save the debate over that issue for another time. Instead, let's talk about how you are without question your child's primary role model, and about how the children are always, always watching. As a co-parent, what are you modeling for your child? ...more


It is often said that “An Englishman’s home is his castle” (although unlike MPs the rest of us can’t claim to have our moats or even drains cleaned at the taxpayers’ expense). So it is that, when a relationship ends, invariably the hardest asset to sort, and to which so many of us are emotionally attached, is the home. ...more

Divorce Cakes and Parties?

This weekend has been chock full of parties and graduation open houses. I’ve enjoyed each one that we’ve attended and they’ve all been so different except for the whole hot dog and hamburger thing.Last night we attended a party at the home of one of Jay’s high school friends. They had a Dairy Queen ice cream cake! ...more

Oh me. Oh my. Oh mama. Link ...more

Great Relationships Begin WITHIN!

I heard a great story years ago about a kid whose mom asked him to make her some eggs. She instructed him to scramble one and fry the other. He, being a “good egg” and of course wanting to please his mother, did just that. He stood and beamed proudly before his mother, presenting her with what he understood to be the answer to her heart’s (or stomach’s, if you will) desire; eggs, one scrambled, the other perfectly fried! “Oh. NO” she protested. “I wanted that one scrambled and the other one fried!” pointing ruthlessly at his obedient offering. ...more

Letting go and being alone

Yesterday was a really frustrating day for me. My aunt called me early in the morning to say she was going to pick me up because she wanted to load a couch to take to her store and that her and my uncle had a huge fight and he threaten divorce. I felt bad but am not surprised because of the way she treats people. But, for her sake of course I do hope they stay together. Then in the car she was trying to start an argument with me because I did not want to go to her house for memorial day. She said "My feelings are hurt, do you not like my company? I said "It ...more

Redrum! Redrum! NOM's New Ad Uses Children To Scare Adults

On the heels of its ridiculous "Gathering Storm" video, the  ...more