Why the Italian Domestic Violence PSA is Stupid

"What happens when you put a boy in front of a girl and ask him to slap her?"Italian website, Fanpage.it attempts to answer this question in their "stirring" PSA-gone-viral against domestic violence.You can watch the video here, but if you're lazy (like me) here's the Cliff's Notes version:...more

The Necessary Silence of A Nice Guy's Victim

It had been just over three months since the day my ex had disappeared from our home, choosing to hide at his parents house, telling me about his infidelity via MSN Messenger. I wasn’t surprised by the confession; I had suspected that something was up for the last six months, but because of the abusive nature of our relationship, I didn’t dare make such an accusation. When I later told people about his confession, and the medium he used, most were stunned, and offended for me. For some reason, it’d never registered with me that I should be angry at the way he chose to confess his sins....more

Who Am I? A Look at the Victims of Domestic Violence

Who am I? I am your mother, your daughter, your sister, your co-worker, your neighbor and your friend.  I am your nurse, your hair stylist, your chiropractor and your son’s piano teacher.  I am the lady in line next to you at the grocery store.  I am the woman sitting beside you Sunday morning at church.  And I am a victim of domestic violence....more
What a beautiful and realistic post.  I am still healing from being in an abusive marriage.  The ...more

Intimate Partner Abuse vs. BDSM: Kink Only Hurts When You Want It To

October is Domestic/Intimate Partner Awareness Month...more
Safe, sane, and consensual. Without ALL THREE of these aspects, an individual /couple is not ...more

After the Sword Attack: Recovering From Domestic Abuse

When I first meet Simonne Butler, I am in awe at the powerful woman I’ve seen all over the news talking about the healing journey she has been on after being brutally attacked by her ex-boyfriend with a samurai sword. She is even more striking in real life—standing on the front porch of the cottage she rents in the country, barefoot, with her reddish hair over her shoulders, and piercing blue eyes. I am so star-struck that I can only vaguely remember something I wasn’t meant to do....more

For Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Remember That Love Doesn't Hurt

The first time someone I (thought I) loved slapped me, I was stunned into silence. I was 16, he was 24, and while there were so many things wrong with our pairing, the physical and emotional abuse were the worst. How does a 16-year-old respond to a hard slap across the cheek in response to saying something he would later say made him feel like "less of a man", when he is bigger and is much stronger? My ears ringing, I paused, completely silenced and stunned that he would strike out at me rather than discuss whatever I said that upset him. It seemed excessive, and I found myself (oddly) doing more to make sense of it than process it as wrong....more
When I get caught up in the emotion of domestic violence situations, I feel overwhelmed with ...more

Domestic Violence is NEVER Okay! Janay Rice, Kayla Dwyer, and Others We’re Praying for You

I tried to avoid speaking on this subject matter because of my own personal struggle with domestic abuse and violence having lived with and experienced it over the years, but something just would not let me keep quiet....more

The Girl With The Horsey Tattoo

I remember the smell in the room the first time I saw her (after far too many years) - this stranger who was my sister. It was the smell of death and bad breath, mixed with some cleaning solvent trying to mask the obvious - a hospital's distinctive cologne. Lying in the hospital bed, the machines breathing for her, I remember the  rise and fall of her chest, with each artificial breath. Tubes and tattoos her only accessories. Head bound with protective bandages, covering the reason I had just flown these 2,000 miles. It was like I had just seen my sister for the first time in my life....more

Domestic Violence: When Love Becomes Tainted by Larry Miller

 One in every four women will experience some form of domestic violence in her lifetime....more


Good morning Some of you may have noticed my disappearance and then subsequent tweets to GMP, I was not a happy lady! I am a very big supporter of our Police, I think on the whole they do a bloody marvellous job and having worked alongside some of our constabularies as well as Police Scotland I know that many officers are as frustrated as the general public at our justice system and the government cut backs....more