For Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Remember That Love Doesn't Hurt

The first time someone I (thought I) loved slapped me, I was stunned into silence. I was 16, he was 24, and while there were so many things wrong with our pairing, the physical and emotional abuse were the worst. How does a 16-year-old respond to a hard slap across the cheek in response to saying something he would later say made him feel like "less of a man", when he is bigger and is much stronger? My ears ringing, I paused, completely silenced and stunned that he would strike out at me rather than discuss whatever I said that upset him. It seemed excessive, and I found myself (oddly) doing more to make sense of it than process it as wrong....more
I've seen more of this than I ever could have imagined, and the reach of it is more than I could ...more

No More Week

It is so common for victims of domestic abuse to also have to choose between being homeless and being abused. Most victims do not have a place to go or the financial resources to move.It’s not that easy to just leave. It should be but it’s not....more

The Value of What Has Been Broken

On yesterday’s episode of The Nightly Show comedian Larry Wilmore called out Bill Cosby as a rapist. Even though more than 30 women have stated publicly that Bill Cosby raped them, there are still those who are unwilling to believe it. Worse, there are those who believe it but just don’t care....more

Accountability is a Four Letter Word

Peaceful Paths plays a variety of roles in our community, from answering helpline calls for survivors of abuse and providing shelter to families in crisis to counseling survivors through trauma and educating youth about healthy relationships.  All these roles require a commitment to speaking the truth about violence against women and the harm it causes.  No one would argue that abuse shouldn’t be addressed, and there is very little controversy over the need for our work and benefit we provide to the greater community.  Where our work gets sticky, and where the greater convers...more