Day 8: I Grew Up Too Soon #NaBloPoMo

The prompt today is a bit more serious than I usually like to write because I tend to not want to remember the bad things in my past much. But, I took the challenge, right? The Prompt: Has anything traumatic ever happened to you? Describe the scenes surrounding a particular event. There have been a few defining moments in my life that I can honestly say have had a huge impact on me. Unfortunately, many of those moments are not good memories that I can look back on in reverie....more
I can relate. Why would a young woman who sees her mother as helpless have any idea that she, ...more

How Running Gave Me the Courage to Heal

The fact is stark but surreal, and I often have to remind myself that it is actually true, that I was once involved in an abusive relationship. The details are not important. What matters is that I was in the relationship for a very long time, that I was a teenager when the relationship started and a grown-up in my late 20s when it ended. What matters is that, had anyone else come to me and recounted the kinds of things I was enduring, I would have told them unequivocally that they needed to leave, get out, run far far away. Maybe what matters most of all is that I’m out. ...more
I am using running as a way to battle my way through depression, and it really is helping. I've ...more

Gross misrepresentation of the facts: Topeka City Council and Evangelical Christians wrongly accused

I rarely get mad, well not really often. But this misreporting made me furious. It demonstrates that bloggers need to check the sources behind the reporter's articles before posting.It has been repeated in the international media that the City Council in Topeka, Kansas has decriminalized domestic violence. Bloggers picked it up and regurgitated it as fact....more

In Defense of Women

I am a survivor of domestic violence.  I am reminded of the pain and fear every time I look in a mirror and see the scar that still exists on my face.  It's faded now as has the fear, but it's still there.  It always will be.And now Topeka, Kansas has decriminalized domestic battery.  The city manager has stated that he can't afford to prosecute these cases and needs to use his budget for "serious" crimes.  Obviously, he has never been on the receiving end of a loved one's fist....more

Did you know that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month?

I have been writing about vacations and fun, but want to address a far more serious and important topic, domestic violence....more
My "real" father, if you will, was abusive to my mother, and though I was still very young, I ...more

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

It's hard to say why this happens, windows smashed, blinds and window coverings torn down. We all know it does happen, our friends, relatives, colleagues, clients endure it. It usually takes 7 times before a woman can leave and stay gone. The most dangerous time for her is around the time of leaving. They usually blame themselves. Sometimes they are asked, "why do you make me do this to you?" And some believe it is their fault, and if they are only good enough, it will not happen again....more

Beginnings always start with an ending

So here I am.  I have so much to say but have been quiet for so long that  there seems to be some sort of traffic jam of thoughts.  I like to put things in some sort of order, put some sort of logic to things but there is no logic for the last 16 years of my life.  It's chaotic and distorted.  Little pieces slam forward but I can't always figure out the context.  My marriage to the love of my life who was also my abuser is very close to over.  Divorce papers are filed, served and have not been contested....more

Woman Beat 10yr Old Son With Knifes, Heavy Wounds All Over His Body - Gnaija

source: gnaija A 29-year old woman, Mrs. Grace Jacob, (pictured) has been arrested for battering her 10-year-old son, Emmanuel, and forcing him to sleep in the staircase of their home at night. ...more

Yelling is abuse. Period.

She was never hit, but that didn't make it any less terrifying. Having someone screaming at the top of their lungs as they slam things, punch holes in walls, kick inanimate objects, stalk around in angry circles -- and having this happen on a daily basis, many times more than once in a day, is frightening. And, as she finally realized, it is abuse. ...more
As an adult who grew up in a home much like you describe, you no doubt made a choice that your ...more

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