Shattered glass

Pam at Blood Signs asks "Do you ever ask yourself if you are the same person you have always been?" ...more

Help End Domestic Violence by Voting for Barack Obama and Joe Biden!

It was truly an honor for me to nominate Senator Biden as our country’s next Vice-President at the Democratic National Convention in August, but more importantly I was honored to represent the victims of Domestic Violence – to give a voice to their cries and to develop a relationship with a team of leaders who not only hear us, but welcome us and our ideas for change in the White House! ...more

Dear Ms. Lucas, Every now and again, I perform my semi-annual google search about your ...more

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

October is famous as Breast Cancer Awareness Month when stores are awash in pink products that often contain breast cancer causing chemicals are sold to women in an effort to fund various activities to combat breast cancer. However, I'll save that topic for next Monday. October is also Domestic Violence Awareness Month. According to The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), one in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime. In addition, one in six women and one in 33 men have experienced an attempted or completed rape, and 1 in 12 women and 1 in 45 men will be stalked in their lifetime. ...more

I know there is a lot of help in the UK for DV and I am here and well today because of it.  I ...more

Sing it with me: R-E-S-P-E-C-T

My friend Laurie Ruettimann of Punk Rock HR tipped me off to the Family Violence Prevention Fund's (FVPF) latest initiative called RESPECT!. If you haven't heard of the FVPF before, I encourage you to read about them at their site as well as Charity Navigator, where they have received a four-star rating (meaning they exceed industry standards and outperform most charities in the same "cause" category). ...more

Honor. Really?

I will admit it: I occasionally read the gossip column, and I peruse gossip magazines at the supermarket and any waiting room that I am, well, waiting in. If it’s about people’s lives, then I’m interested. ...more

You have to wonder if the doors stay closed because no one is listening when they are opened. ...more

Keeping Up the Statistics: Holley Wimunc Murdered by Her Husband

“On the average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends every day” according to the Bureau of Justice Statistics Crime Data Brief, Intimate Partner Violence, 1993-2001, February 2003.  ...more

WHO IS JOHN MCCAIN? Hint: Not a Moderate, in Case You Were Wondering

Jake Tapper, ABC News Senior National Correspondent, in his blog “Political Punch” June 27 post “McCain Gambles with Awkward Joke” started a bit of a blog-o-flap among some feminists who though the senator’s remark about wife beating grossly inappropriate and perhaps insensitive to domestic abuse. Here's the relevant excerpt: ...more

Domestic Violence Rages On

 One of my guiding principles in life is that, oftentimes, no news is good news.  But I don't mean that in the usual way.  What I mean is that, if you really want to be happy, don't watch the news.       Don't misunderstand me...I like to be informed.  I don't want to be completely ignorant of what is happening in the world around me.  But there is so much going on that is so unpleasant and that I have no control over, that sometimes, not watching the news is the best option.  In fact, therapists will often recommend this to patients who are anxiety-ridden or depressed.  Being bo ...more

Report It Now A Success!

Tues, April 29th was "REPORT IT NOW" Day in honor of Sexual Violence Against Women Advocate, Angela Shelton in conjuction with PAVE! April is "Sexual Assault Awareness Month" and a time for Survivors to band together and Educate Men and Women about the dangers of sexual assault and domestic violence! What is it all about?  ...more

A Dozen Steps Toward Recovery

In Alcoholics Anonymous, they often say that alcoholism is not the problem, it is just a symptom. Many people, especially in early recovery, enthusiastically cast aside drinking for another addictive behavior, and just about everyone in every twelve-step program discovers myriad other self-destructive behaviors they’re engaging in as they take inventory of their lives. These behaviors echo past trauma and abuse. The true problem is that these traumas have taught us that we deserve pain and chaos. We have learned to seek out and recreate our unresolved traumatic experiences even after the original harmful situations have passed. It is immaterial whether we perpetuate it by starving ourselves, berating ourselves, short-circuiting our bodies with harmful substances, underearning, choosing and staying with abusive people, cutting our bodies, or something else entirely. So what’s the solution? Well, don’t worry, we have our top psychologists, scientists, and therapists working on that around the clock… oh. We don’t? Well. Here are a few pieces that might fit. ...more

I'm in recovery in theAl-anon program. I'm currently working step 4 which I talk about ...more