Over the last few years, I have slowly get had to reclaim aspects of myself that were lost or beaten into submission figuratively and sometimes literally by my past relationships that were fraught with abuse and violence. One of the first things was my sexuality, which was reclaimed in a most unhealthy way. It has been a long list after that filled with things both small and large. I am able to wear what I want, eat what I want, have an argument if I want, and control my own time. But, it occurred to me yesterday that there was one thing I had never thought about.
(from the blog "Paglalakbay sa Puso ng Isang Ina" which may be found at http://www.mabutingtao.com) Through a Mother's Eye: The reality of Domestic Violence In my work, I have co-journeyed with a number of women and their families in situations of domestic abuse....more
A whole other lifetime ago, life was very different in our family. We didn’t have a lot of money, and things were really tight. When money is tight, so is patience, as well as everyday common decency. My then-husband (the Ex) and I thought nothing of our verbal sparring matches we held way back then. There were some nights when we screamed at each other through to the early hours of the morning. Eventually, those screaming fights escalated into something more physical....more
In the first post for our month long series on Healthy Relationships, I want to share 5 signs of an abusive relationship. These are by no means all-inclusive. If your "gut check" tells you something doesn't feel right, trust it.*Note: I will be using pronouns that imply that the male is the abuser and the female is the victim, however we know that this in not always the case. The same rules apply when the genders are reversed and also in same-sex relationships....more
(Trigger warning) Modified from the Cyber Vigil for Ka'Sandra Wade in Pittsburgh. When I asked Pam Spaulding to promote today’s cyber vigil, she did so and commented “These stories need to be told …” I agree. And I am hoping some of the bloggers will share their stories. Because they bind us....more
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