Reclaiming My Sense of Humor in the Wake of Abuse

Over the last few years, I have slowly get had to reclaim aspects of myself that were lost or beaten into submission figuratively and sometimes literally by my past relationships that were fraught with abuse and violence. One of the first things was my sexuality, which was reclaimed in a most unhealthy way. It has been a long list after that filled with things both small and large. I am able to wear what I want, eat what I want, have an argument if I want, and control my own time. But, it occurred to me yesterday that there was one thing I had never thought about. ...more
As a fellow survivor of abuse, and also someone learning how to be myself again, thank you for ...more

Through a Mother's Eye: The Reality of Domestic Violence

(from the blog "Paglalakbay sa Puso ng Isang Ina" which may be found at Through a Mother's Eye: The reality of Domestic Violence      In my work, I have co-journeyed with a number of women and their families in situations of domestic abuse....more

I didn't leave after the first hit - A story of abuse.

A whole other lifetime ago, life was very different in our family. We didn’t have a lot of money, and things were really tight. When money is tight, so is patience, as well as everyday common decency. My then-husband (the Ex) and I thought nothing of our verbal sparring matches we held way back then. There were some nights when we screamed at each other through to the early hours of the morning. Eventually, those screaming fights escalated into something more physical....more

Telling my story for One Billion Rising's call to end violence against women and girls

I remember the moment he slapped me. If I listen hard enough, I can still hear the ringing in my ears. We both just stared at each other, shocked that he’d actually hit me....more

5 Warnings Signs of an Abusive Relationship

In the first post for our month long series on Healthy Relationships, I want to share 5 signs of an abusive relationship. These are by no means all-inclusive. If your "gut check" tells you something doesn't feel right, trust it.*Note: I will be using pronouns that imply that the male is the abuser and the female is the victim, however we know that this in not always the case. The same rules apply when the genders are reversed and also in same-sex relationships....more

A Series On Healthy Relationships


Rihanna.. Can we talk?

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Women On the Wrong End of the Gun

The United States experiences epidemic levels of gun violence, claiming over 30,000 lives annually, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention....more

I Remember The First Time That He Hit Me

(Trigger warning) Modified from the Cyber Vigil for Ka'Sandra Wade in Pittsburgh.  When I asked Pam Spaulding to promote today’s cyber vigil, she did so and commented “These stories need to be told …”  I agree. And I am hoping some of the bloggers will share their stories. Because they bind us....more

Her Name Was Ka'Sandra Wade. Pgh Blog Vigil Against Domestic Violence

(Crossposted from Pittsburgh Lesbian Correspondents - please visit that site to grab the code for the button.)...more