Five Reasons Every Writer Should Journal

I’m going to be bold and use a word I rarely dare to use: should. Deep breath. Here goes.I think every writer should keep a journal of some kind.Now, I’m not going to be so audacious as to suggest what kind of journal you should keep or how often you should write in it, but I am going to stick to my premise....more

mind over mattress

if we could play word association and i mentioned the word ‘bed’, you might have the following responses: • sleep • sex • cuddling • sick • insomnia • reading • watching t.v • headboard • comforter • duvet • pillows • murphy • bunk • twin • queen • king • sheets • room • dream • tired • nap • rest • snore •  morning night • relaxing • talking • feathers • cushion • soft • firm • spring • ...more
Thank you for sharing this! I too struggle with depression and anxiety and can totally relate to ...more

Naming the Shame That Can Cripple

When Amy Ferris asked me to contribute an essay to Dancing at the Shame Prom: Sharing the Stories That Kept Us Small, I wasn’t sure that I had any shame. Then, when I thought about it, I realized that I did. I just hadn’t framed it that way. I agreed to participate. ...more
love love love Marcia G. Yerman.more

Emotional Hygiene

Recently, I had a minor but difficult surgical procedure to lance an abscess on my leg. It was very painful, and while I recovered physically pretty quickly, I had some Post -traumatic stress reactions—bad dreams, flashbacks, and upset—after my recovery. I had to acknowledge my upset and feelings, and let them out before the stress reactions subsided....more

Maintaining Your Emotional Hygiene

I have written before about emotional hygiene and doing the necessary maintenance on feelings as well as your physical body and household. Health reminders tell us to wash our hands frequently to prevent transmittal of diseases. Did you know you can “wash” your mood, too, and give yourself an attitude adjustment whenever you want to?  Image: the Italian voice via Flickr ...more
So, true and a good reminder of what's important in life.more

The Adult Obession With the Bodies of Young Girls: Shape-Up Sneakers Target Tweens to Ensure Their Bottoms Look Good

It has been an interesting year or two for girls’ fashions. First we had little girls’ underwear with words like “eye candy” printed on the crotch, sweatpants with “Juicy” and “Sexy” on the backside and padded bikini tops for 7-year-olds. The new rage is Sketcher Shape-Ups for little girls. These Shape-Ups have become famous for their commercials promising lean legs and perky butts for women who wear them. The commercials focus on the backsides of women, as they shake their bottoms wearing skimpy underwear or bikinis....more

It really sickens me actually . . . though is vanity the only thing that will motivate ...more

The Way We Live

We live in the way in which we were born.  The experiences that we encounter while inutero have huge impacts concerning the ways in which we will live out our lives.  Imprints are created early on in our existence that will set the stage for our experiences in life.  As a prenate, our defense system is quite primitive and we are unable to defend ourselves from all that we experience inutero, as we manuever very difficult developmental agendas.  Core wounds occur during the time of our inutero experience and during the days around our birth.  These core wounds are ch...more

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Squelch the Sabotager: 4 Ways To Begin To Heal Self Loathing (part 1)

The following internal dialogue is one example of one way self babble may ensue: Scene: any place, any where, typically when you first become conscious in the morning, but throughout the day and then some: sabotager: Hurry up. You’re late. You have to get started doing that thing. you, me, anyone: What thing? sabotager: The thing you’re supposed to be doing!!! you, me anyone: Which one? There’s bazillions!!!...more

Drive...gently

Being a passenger of a speeding driver can be an ennerving experience.You feel scared, out of control, nervous about your safety, the driver's, the fellow passengers in cars surrounding you.You feel stuck, alone, and you want out.Hold that feeling.Switch scenarios.Only this time you're not sitting passenger.You're walking around in your day.And the speeding driver are the thoughts pressuring you, condemning you, attacking you, sabotaging you.Your innermost self feels week, vulnerable, not safe ....you want out....more