Bird Home-Invasion Reveals "Empty Nester" Envy

 I was lying in my bathtub this morning when my husband came flying in with his usual sense of urgency."Do we own a net?""A net?""Yes! A Net!""No, but put it on the list and I'll be sure and pick one up next time I'm at Walmart," I said dismissively, with my characteristic lack of urgency, (most pronounced in all matters of household maintenance, of which I've grown decidedly weary and largely unmotivated.)"Get out, of the tub! I need your help! We have birds in the house!"...more

Finding home, leaving home,

Hey - I I found you looking up the phrase 'You're only as happy as you're saddest child'. Great ...more


My sister had planned to visit me this weekend, but the weather got in the way. Don't get me wrong: we're both really happy to see California get a little rain -- but we're both smart enough to know that driving on wet roads in this state can be treacherous, especially during the first storm after months and months of hot and dry weather, which tends to make the asphalt all the more slippery....more

Mastering the Transition: Embracing Your Life After the Kids Are Gone

Transition: The process or a period of changing from one state or condition to anotherIt’s been about a month now since you settled your son or daughter into their 12 x 10 dorm space with a new, complete stranger, and drove away thinking your heart might never feel the same.Thirty or so days for your child to adjust to their new world. How are they doing? ...more

What to do in Bangkok: The Golden Buddha

I could have spent months in Thailand and not seen it all, but what I did see will stay with me forever.  I spent the second half of my trip with my daughter, Alexandra, who always said she never wanted to go to Asia.  As it turned out, she was not ready to leave when the time came!...more

A Trip to the Attic for a Trip to South America

My son is leaving in a couple of weeks to backpack in South America. In order to procure needed funding, he has begun to dig in my attic, that hoarders treasure trove that can keep one occupied for hours. We have been culling through mounds of newspaper, bubble wrap and cardboard boxes and rediscovering long forgotten items from his childhood to past flea markets.  More than once he has berated me for being a hoarder and has been diligently cleaning as he unpacks the relics stacked in heaps....more

Empty nesting milestone: out of the trenches

Having Ky leave on the bus to head back to college was, as anticipated, pretty hard. I'd gotten used to being in my role of Mom to a teenager again and it's the role I think I've loved the most in parenting. I know, every stage (except age 3) was "my favorite" and that hasn't changed over the years. I still think each year is my favorite....more

Midlife Cabernet: How Did My Children Grow Up So Fast?

 Just when you figure how how to be a good parent, the kids grow up and move away. There is no chance to do it over. You can only hope that they don't write a tell-all book about their horrid childhood.Every other vocation requires education, study, and aptitude. With a baby, it's on the job training with no salary, 24 hours a day, and you're under pressure to be Parent of the Year. In reality, you look at the tiny bundle and mutter, "What do I do now?"...more

They Really Do Come Back

You would have thought that, by the time the nest was completely empty, I would have been ready. After all, I had three daughters head off to college before the youngest headed out. One of the first things I discovered was that, no matter how prepared I thought I was, I wasn't really prepared at all. And then, after four years, the last one out was the first one back. My first discovery? I had adjusted to an empty nest. My second discovery? It was not that easy to readjust to not having an empty nest....more
fledgedchick OH yes! The grocery bill! Our daughter is 22 and stands 5'5" but she can pack away ...more