The more I read blogs, the more and more I end up reading birth stories. There's something innately special about a birth story. It's at the same time a personal and universal experience. There are endless ways to experience it - vaginal, c-section, medicated, unmedicated, in a hospital, in birth centers - the list goes on and on. Despite all these different methods, in the end its still the amazing act of bringing new life into the world, and its one of the reasons I love to read birth stories - they are so so different....more
My husband and I are long-time fans of the British TV sitcom "Coupling," which ran for four seasons from 2000 to 2004. The fourth and final season followed one of the character's pregnancy and eventual delivery, and one episode, entitled "Circus of the Epidurals" discusses the character's desire for a natural childbirth, and her boyfriend's inability to understand why in the world she would want to forego drugs....more
I read an article called The Truth About Epidurals by Melinda Wenner Moyer on the Washington Post Social Reader through Facebook and of course I can't help but comment. If you haven't read the article you can find it here.
The article itself appears to be this mothers justification of her choice and right to choose an epidural as pain management during her labor and delivery....more
I think it is so important to know how little control we have over the birth process, as birthing women and as doulas. It hurts a little every time to have this lesson driven home. I think there is a secret belief that if we do everything right, like provide the correct support, use the correct remedies, say the magic words, we will be granted with our clients' births going wonderfully. We go around wondering "why?" when an outcome is not as we'd wanted, and fall into the pattern of wondering if there was anything else we could have done....more
We have talked about the phenomenon of "doulas behaving badly". I have brought up a few things about doula work to try to help us be understood a little better by medical professionals. Now I wanna sing the blues. The truth is, more often than not, doulas who behave conscientiously still get their share of berating. It's true that those who behave badly can create or exacerbate prejudice for our work, but the reality remains that sometimes we're hated on sight simply because of who we are....more
The sensations of labour vary for every woman. Not only from woman to woman, but from labour to labour. I have had births that felt virtually painless for most of the labour, to having sensations that kicked my ass leaving me breathless and begging for mercy....more
I have sat outside rooms beside a couple of male doctors, with the woman inside the room yelling and keening with her birthing pains, ask me that very question. I am not picking on male doctors, as I have known women to say this too...about other women. This feels even worse to me. Anyway, in these cases, I could sense the doctor was having a hard time not wanting to save the woman from what clearly sounded like abject suffering....more