Women, Their Breasts, and the Power of Choice

From time to time my writings and blog posts are found when an innocent (yeah, right) Googler types in the words “big breastfeeding boobies”. I need not tell you how much I revel in those misdirected moments. I sit in my secret feminist fortress and let out an enormous evil laugh—Bwahahahahaha—as the unsuspecting internet interloper clicks on one of my links hoping to find a good time only to be slapped in the face by…well…big breastfeeding boobies like these:...more

My Parenting Bubble

I thought I lived in a pretty average suburb of Washington DC - but no. Apparently, I live in a bubble.It's a comfortable, gentle, accepting sort of bubble, and inside it everyone I know either feels the same way as I do about parenting issues, or is too polite to mention that they don't. Even my Facebook friends contrive to make me think there is no dissent anywhere: we all appreciate the same hilarious e-cards, we all Like each other's jaded parenting updates, and we all commiserate in harmony when someone's kids are sick....more

Breastfeeding a Toddler

My youngest is 13 months old and "still" breastfeeding. It's not as if I expected him to suddenly stop when he turned one. I also don't have any intention of cutting him off at some arbitrary and magical age. He and I will both know when he's ready to taper off and stop. What this means is that I am now officially breastfeeding a toddler. And that is a whole new ballgame. He's no tiny baby anymore!...more

Mammaries or Mommaries? A Lesson in Modern Misogyny

This is normally not something I will comment on, but I wrote this for another blog and thought I’d share it here. This isn’t just a parenting issue. I feel it affects all women!In the nanny world, you get exposed to a lot of parenting debates simply by proxy. I know more about parenting and children than I ever would know as a general childless person. As such, I find myself reading articles and blogs that have nothing really to do with my stage of life, and articles on the great breastfeeding debate are no exception....more

Hello World Breastfeeding Week!

I never anticipated how much time I would spend talking about my boobs once I became a mother....more

No Nursing Manners For Us, Thanks

As Dylan becomes a toddler, his nursing is getting more physically chaotic. He’s wigglier. He kicks. He fidgets with his hands. Lately he’ll nurse from one boob for 5 seconds, then switch, then back again. He even does this in his sleep sometimes -- which I think is terribly adorable. Kellymom describes possible toddler nursing antics with this list: “Kneading, patting, twiddling, scratching, pinching, grabbing mom’s nose, biting, pulling at mom’s shirt, playing with or pulling mom’s hair, blowing raspberries on mom’s breast, breastfeeding standing up, breastfeeding upside down, acrobatic breastfeeding…” Yep, Dylan does ‘em all....more
I think if it doesn't bother you, all for it. Most of the time I don't mind most of it, but the ...more

Toddler Moms Debunk Extended Breastfeeding Myths

Myth: Breastfeeding will ruin your boobs! Truth: Your breasts will inflate through your pregnancy and engorgement when your milk comes whether your nurse your babies or not! Vanity has been known to get the best of me. I’ll admit it. If you fall in to the camp of women that occasionally puts a little too much focus on the outside instead of the inside, you’ll be glad to know that breastfeeding your kids is not responsible for your boobs going South! ...more
I understand you have an opinion, but why post a picture of the process? Don't you find it private?more

"Isn't she a little big to be nursing still?"

That's the question we're starting to hear as Zofia nears 2 years old. ...more

Athena's take on the Time magazine cover is one of the better ones, no?

Athena is kind of like a National Geographic photographer. She quietly goes through the house taking pictures of unsuspecting people to catch them in their natural habitat. Sometimes that means you're photographed in the shower, sometimes it means you're photographed cramming a hot dog in your face. Sometimes she even takes videos or uses effects to dress up her work. ...more

We're All Mom Enough

A week ago, my friend and business partner Dionna of Code Name: Mama called me up excitedly and said TIME Magazine was looking for attachment parenting families who wanted to participate in a photo shoot in New York City. I ended up being passed over as a candidate, but she was chosen as one of the models for tandem breastfeeding a baby and an older nursling (the glowing #3 in the slideshow). To the right is a candid her husband snapped during the shoot. ...more
 @hobomama The women in the Time piece, as pointed out here, are hardly Rubenesque, either. Silly.more