A Simple Way To Fall In Love

As I read Mandy Len Catron’s Modern Love essay in the New York Time’s this weekend, I couldn’t help but find it familiar. In the essay she refers to a study by psychologist Arthur Aron that explores whether intimacy and love can be accelerated between two strangers by having them ask and answer each other a specific set of personal questions in one sitting....more

To Colorado Springs With Love

It was a hot summer afternoon, not unlike today. The year was 2001. The skies were that impossible Colorado blue, and the sun was piercingly bright. I packed a picnic lunch for five and climbed into the passenger seat of a Jeep of the darkest green. It was topless (I was not), and we quickly shifted children so that each had a seat belt: eldest boy (age 7) proudly up front, me in the middle back and flanked by more happy boys (ages 5 and 3). My heart bounced and twirled and shimmied within me, as it always does at the promise of adventure.Little did it know....more

I Fell In Love Today

I tripped out of flannel sheets into the chilly morning and I fell in love. A pile of blankets on the living room floor, two small heads poking out, little eyes focused, little lips moving silently, hair and breath that spoke of early rising - quietly cuddled with each a book, patiently awaiting the day....more

The Dying Art of Prem?

Let the French celebrate their ménage de troi, the Americans, their prom, we Bengalis have always championed our own original contribution to the global vocabulary of love and sex, thank you very much. It is the much serenaded: prem. Amply inspired by the rain and slush filled afternoons of our parts, the particular colours of our smoke-stained greenery, the sounds of our rumbling buses, and the competitive pricing of our cinema-halls-to-make-out-in, prem flourished robustly in Calcutta for decades....more

Love in a Mixtape

Back in 1988, we still looked up movie show times in newspapers, we still were shocked by the Iran-Contra affair on television, and we still made mixtapes on audio cassettes....more

How To Fall In Love (And Be A Woman)

Sometimes when you're in a relationship for a long time and everything's hunky dory you forget that when a relationship ends how earth shattering it can be for you or anyone else.Until someone you care about gets thrown into the vicious whirlpool of breaking up and recovering and all your forgotten pain comes to the fore because you know how tough they're having it right now. I meant to write this a while back (but you know how I can procrastinate!) - So, M, Eno and U this is for you (whenever you think the world's crashing around you):...more

Falling in Love: Is Your Fear Greater Than Your Faith?

Suddenly, I was struck with a realization. Underneath all the elaborate dialogue about erotic obstruction and over-intellectualized star-crossed motif was a simple truth: I'm afraid. I counted previous relationships, most of them with people who were unattainable, who enabled an affair with a natural end. And those that were attainable still found their end somehow, bludgeoned into the pattern I had created, the pattern that made sense to me. The pattern of great intense love with a clear, definite, explosive end. Painful, yes. But their predictability gave me a sense of control. ...more

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Once upon a wedding...

Have you ever dreamed and dreamed about something so much that you almost feel like it actually happened? I mean really imagined each and every detail down to where sighs would be placed in conversations about it? I am a single, very independent woman who, one day, will put a ring on it and shop for china patterns. Now is not the time to skip down the aisle. Now is always the time, however, to plan it....more

Falling and Falling, Again and Again

I’m in a group of twelve very close girlfriends. We all have three-year-old children. We were sitting around one recent night, talking, laughing, eating, drinking (and I mean drinking), and telling mommy-hood war stories. One of my girlfriends who has a three-year old daughter told a really interesting one: ...more