Blood Ties Does Not a Parent Make

I was about six years old when my mother fled from my very abusive and cruel father. She left Managua, Nicaragua, and ran as fast and as far as she could, running all the way back home to San Salvador, El Salvador. And about one year later, she met her destiny. She’d traveled to the United States with her younger brother, and soon thereafter met and married a wonderful American man who would later adopt me and my brother. He became the father that would raise us with genuine fatherly love....more

[365day Attitude] What It Means To Be Daddy’s Girl

I’ll be honest here – Father’s Day has been kind of a stretch for me lately. Not because I don’t think my dad is awesome – he is for sure. It’s just the timing and the context. See my Dad compared to other dad’s is well…pretty weird. And the more I have gotten to know him the less impact I feel a silly old preprinted card from the store is going to be (and I’m a bit too old for macaroni glued to cardstock). ...more

Saluting the Strength of Fathers

  This post is dedicated to the amazing strength that fathers exhibit as they take care of their families. I have been blessed with some wonderful examples of good fathers in my life – men who stood and cared for their families each day without complaint. . I have seen my own Dad, my uncles, grandfather and husband take care of their wives and children in that strong, quiet way fathers do. Fathers serve as a wonderful source of the positive power of male strength that children experience....more

Getting to Know Dad, Finally: A Fathers Day Tribute

It's 3 a.m. and it's raining, the kind of rain that stabs the pavement with noisy diagonal needles. The telephone rings. This should be a horror movie but it's not. ...more

Fathers and Sons: A Musical Reflection

Recently, I had a favorite song transcribed for me, Steve Goodman’s “My Old Man.” I discovered it as a deleted scene on Goodman’s Austin City Limits DVD and fell in love with it. It’s a big ol’ Man-Weeper and my friend, The Nutty Professor, figured out a way for a novice guitar player like me to play it....more

Tribute to Dads on Father’s Day

Dad I saw you cry when each baby was born. I saw you love those tiny things. As each baby slept on your chest, you were contorted into the most uncomfortable position, but did not move, protecting the wee one's nap. Later I saw you teach your kids to cut the grass, whether they wanted to learn or not. I saw you throw ball then chase squealing kids on hot summer days with huge water soaking squirt guns. I saw you walk the dog with your children....more

Thank you Victoria, yes a loving dad gives us a great launching pad for life. You are blessed.more

Why kids need fathers

When I was little, my dad worked a lot. Because his office was in our house, there were some nights when the work seemed to have no stopping hours. But my dad also knew he was missing out on us growing up, so he made it a point to fit time into his work schedule that included us kids. He’d set us up at the table so we could help him with some of the busy work....more

Dads are SO important. I enjoyed this read.....


Cuff Bracelets for Grads and Dads - Instant Statement

I recently wrote an article about the in-fashion of cuffs for women. Let’s not leave the men out. No matter what their age this one single piece shows that he has style and is not afraid to show it.  They are perfect for both the young and, shall we say, seasoned, men in your life. With both Father’s Day and graduations just around the corner, these may just be the gift you are looking for....more


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How we remember

“Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.” – Elisabeth Kübler-Ross ...more