More milk in the cookies

I have just found a great book that I heard about a very long time ago. Called “The Bluest Eye” by Toni Morrison. Maybe some of you have heard about this book on the famous “Oprah book club? “...more

Grandparents: Turns Out the Gift Was Really for Me

When I was 20 years old, I walked out of a train station terminal and into the parking lot. My father sat in the cab of his truck, waiting patiently to pick me up. As I walked into the sunshine flooded parking lot, I noticed a family. A woman a few years older than me handed her toddler to a man who was clearly the woman's father. "Hm," I thought, "I really need to have a kid soon before my dad dies." A few clarifying points are needed. I was not married. I did not have a boyfriend. I lived at home. My father was not sick. ...more
Beautiful. Wonderful job, it was moving and a bit funny and interesting--keep it up!more

Letter to my future first child

Letter to my future first child (read more)From

Does Depression Make Dads Spank Their 1-Year-Olds?

What is common is for the media to infer is that depressed parents abuse their children. This kind of thing always happens when stories come out about the negative effects of postpartum depression. It's not that there aren't any negative effects. There are. We can't ignore them. In fact, we really need to talk about them, not to make women who suffer feel guilty, but to make them aware that avoiding treatment is not an option. ...more

Only suitable for minors?:

Schoolchildrens' "spanking" related injuries (WARNING - These ...more

The ugly side of the beauty industry

The base concept is really simple: we have in our bodies lots of substance that don’t even exist in nature.From

Want a Feminist Son? Tips From a Veteran

Someone asked me how we raised feminist sons. I don’t have a checklist. And if I were to respond seriously, I’d start with something really corny: teach them to respect people – all people. The elevator man. The bus driver. Their best friend’s mom. The guy at the candy counter. Their friends. Their parents’ friends. Their baby sitter. They were Manhattan kids, but they were raised to think of the feelings of every person they met. Of course, that meant all women, too. That was an advantage. ...more

I agree about respecting all people.

I'd take it a bit further, too, to not making ...more

Father and Father in Law - tough to buy for?

ersonally, I think men are really hard to buy for and I thank Pragmatic Mom for making me challenge myself in this way. My default gifts – scarves, gloves, or a nice sweater – just don’t work if your recipient lives in Florida most of the year. So I have to get creative....more

Where Sleigh Bells Ring

I lie in my driveway and wave my arms and legs. Harry, my 11 month old boarder collie, jumps on top of me, mouth open, tongue hanging out, smiling.  He steals my hat and runs.  I give up my snow angel and try to get it back....more

I'm not eloquent when people die.

Death makes me uncomfortable.  I get awkward.  It's one of the few social occasions when words escape me.  I say stupid things. For example, last year when Jen, my childhood friend, lost her mom suddenly, I said something totally stupid at her wake.  I remember it clearly, and it was stupid.  Granted, I was having contractions, as I was most certainly 9 months pregnant with Leo 2 summers ago, but I am 100% smarter than the words that came out of my mouth. ...more

A Possible?

Ok I haven't updated you on the love life lately because there isn't much to tell. Jeezy is still around, but not that much....more