A Kinder, More Gentle Way to Say “I’m 42 Years Old”

This year I decided I'm not turning 42 years old. I'm not rewinding or stopping the clock either. I'm simply taking a different approach to this midlife mark....more

The Art of "Just Losing It"

Just after we both turned 40, my best friend lost her mother to cancer.  Always a rock inside and out, she dealt with her grief, arranged the funeral, planned a lovely wake and did a cancer walk in her mother’s honor.  All with a freshly pressed wardrobe and not a hair out of place.  And then, as the dust settled and the frenzy of activity began to wane, something happened.  She lost it. ...more

365 Days Back To Me

We’ve all heard it before – a midlife crisis is all about dumping your spouse for a newer version, buying a hot sports car and leaving your old life behind.  From my teens, to my twenties and through my thirties, I thought it was silly.  You can’t just start over by ignoring your life.  Who does that? ...more

A New Lease on Life

Who’da known that signing on the dotted line would’ve give me a new lease on life.You see, I signed a lease today to stay in this little rental house I’ve been in for 6 months. The last few weeks have been very unsettling. The house went under contract to be sold. I was facing moving again. But it turns out the new owners want me to stay. They won’t tear it down and start building their dream home for at least a year....more

A Letter to My Twenty-Year-Old Self

You are young, so I understand if you don’t want to hear this, or can’t hear it right now.  You might want to put it aside because you are busy—not in the way you’ll become busy later, but at the moment you have friends to meet and probably a boy waiting somewhere.  Activity.  Life.  You can stay up late—even all night—and never feel it the next day.  You don’t use moisturizer.  You don’t work out.  You are invincible....more

Mid-Life Friendship Crisis ? Is there such a thing?

Mid-Life Friendship Crisis ...more
Wow it looks like a touch a nerve here on Blogher and on my blog: Lillyslace.blogspot.com. I ...more

Midlife: Living Life in Dog Years!

My marriage of 28 years wasn't awful.  I hit my midlife crisis at age 53.  He stuck his head in the sand via the "easy" chair.  We stopped talking.  The silence and lonliness was palpable.  My daughter hit 18, and we barely saw her, which was okay, I understood the natural order of things, blah blah blah.  What I didn't get was what happened next--Nothing.  I had envisioned both of us taking time off to travel, maybe a cruise here and there.  I was the only one with that vision....more
@Allison Cook thanks Allison! You know, having been raised in a conservative Catholic family, ...more

No Jerking Off On My Range

This is the 16th installment in the Bad Luck Cadet Series. It’s best to start at the beginning to enjoy my adventures at the police academy after my mid-life crisis. It’s all about fun, laughter and pain. Well maybe pain, pain and pain! Returning to my dorm room on Sunday evening was depressing. All signs of Donna were gone. I went in search of moral support. Rocco hadn’t arrived yet. Cadet Rodriguez, known as P-Rod was looking a lot worse for wear. Philip Rodriguez is the cadet who ran my ten punishment hill runs with me and it was hard to be down when around him....more

Jumping Hurdles

The week seemed to drag by. My husband could do nothing right and my kids were driving me nuts, my son most of all. He actually told me I was an embarrassment to our family. I knew if I slapped him he would call the police just to ruin my nearly perfect background. I looked up Cooper Standards on the internet. It’s divided by male and female, it factors in age and has a superior, excellent, good, fair, poor and very poor standard....more


It is official. I am no longer cool. My “previously enjoyed” clothes have been rejected by a store clerk who has more ear piercings than I have hands and feet. Talk about humiliation! ...more