Hey, Dads: Is this really worth arguing over?

My husband and I were friends for years before we became a couple. All those years of friendship added up to lots of funny stories about mutual friends and was a great way to determine how compatible we are. Since the time of our transition from buddies to spouses, we've had relatively few arguments. Sure there are areas where we don't always see eye-to-eye, but overall, we are on the same page....more

How to deal with DIFFICULT family members!

This post was written in a time of frustration and learning on my part. In response to the things I was learning and having to deal with difficult family members, I wrote this to be a help to others!Family is something that you cannot change and with whom you're stuck with for life (in a good way!) Knowing that, we must dedicate ourselves to learning how to interact and deal with family members. This is not always on easy task though....more

4 Argument Icebreakers for Couples

So the argument is over.  You realize it really wasn't that big of a deal in the first place, but both of you are waiting for one another to make the first step forward.  I know.  I've been there.  As much as you want to get back to the normalcy of hugs, kisses and slaps on the butt you just don't want to go out like a chump.  Well, the bad news is you kind of have too.  The good news is you can do it in a cool kinda way....more

Mommy & Me

Women fighting is often a tough concept to coneive beyond hair pulling, cat fights, or just smacking. But I've covered strong women in the past before - see here and here....more

Martial Arts Mama

Earlier this week I was chatting with one of the other moms at pickup. She had been at last week's Learning Leaders training session (if you are not sure what I am talking about read this http://mamommyarchives.blogspot.com/2012/10/just-let-them-bleed.html) and she wanted me to know that she agreed with me. She also said I was "different from the normal tone of this country" when it comes to parenting....more
Both of my sons are in Karate and it teaches them to focus on their goals in working towards ...more

How Not to Fight: Myths about Fighting In Relationships (And What to Do about Them)

In my counseling practice, couples are often surprised to learn they can communicate and solve problems effectively without fighting; but sometimes you may find it’s not so easy to give up your struggles. You may have trouble letting go of the fighting habit because of two factors: social expectations (expectations the people around you have about marriage) and myths (common beliefs not based on fact.)Myths and Expectations about Fighting ...more

First, do no harm...

It is really a simple statement, one that in my home is our golden rule. Do no harm. No harm to yourself or others. No harm to people, animals and property. Do no harm. I write this today after a friend told me about some sibling issues in her home. Like many of you, her kids act out when upset. Sibling squabbles become verbal attacks and oftentimes become physical. I have seen this too many times to count and often with terrifying and lasting consequences. So, I thought I would share this bit of parenting wisdom with anyone who has ears to hear. Do no harm. ...more

Dear Dr. Romance: I Just Want a Way to Resolve the Yelling

Dear Dr. Romance:I have been together with my wife for about 3 years now. We have worked on many issues in our marriage and resolved most of them; however, there is still one issue that has not been resolved....more

Toddler Tricks - 96: Work It Out

Problem: Your kids are fighting. There's the crying and the screaming, the hitting and the biting. The wailing ever louder, the appeals for your intervention. You get the feeling most of this outlandish behavior is purely for your benefit, but you don't know what to do about it. Solution:...more