Where's My Confidence?

All my life I have been struggling with my body image. If I'm good looking enough, if i'm pretty, skinny, all of that. When I look in the mirror, all I want to be able to do is call myself beautiful and mean it. Why can't I do that?I am engaged, I love my Fiance with everything I have. He accepts me for me, tells me I'm beautiful everyday, makes me feel beautiful. But when the times comes when I have to call myself beautiful with no help. I can't do it. All I want to do is cry, I don't understand why its so hard to love myself.. ...more

Own Your Beauty: On Faces and Eyes, Especially Mine

It was odd for me to email her. Although we’ve met once and I’ve written about her, Karen and I aren’t close friends. Certainly not the kind of friends that email each other on the way home from therapy. And yet, as I drove down the Interstate last Wednesday morning with the sticky residue of tears on my cheeks, I knew I had to email her. I had to get answers, and my gut was certain that she was the place to start. I got home and logged onto my email before I lost my nerve; I knew it was presumptuous to drag this casual acquaintance into my darkest place, my Original Hurt, if you will. ...more

It's funny--I've been seeing links to this post in my sidebar and wondering what it could be ...more

The Case Against the Flawed (almost) SAHM - SAHM Project - Entry Seven

Self-evaluation is never easy. No one likes to admit when, or how many times, they are wrong. This is especially true for me. But, self-evaluation is necessary for any real, beneficial changes to occur in ones behaviors. And it seems on days that I am most adament about avoiding the blemishes on my character, my husband turns into a gigantic, gaudy mirror, waiting with baited breath to point out that I'm not as sweet as I claim to be. ...more

Wrinkle Creams, Diet Pills and Bath Water

Do you have wrinkles? Are you overweight? Need to hide that tummy bulge? Want to look younger? Need concealer? Cover that gray hair. Get veneers for your teeth. Win a makeover! We are constantly bombarded with information on how to fix this and how to get what we don't have. Reinvent, redo and repair. (oh and by the way, it'll cost ya!) It is usuallly based on appearance and the focus is on the perceived negative; the inadequate; what we aren't, what we don't have and what needs fixing. Throw this judgemental baby out with the stinkin' bath water. ...more