How Do You Forgive Someone Who Ruined a Life?

How do you forgive someone who ruined a life? If you have been following my blog for a while you know that I am the proud mama of two amazing special needs boys: Gage and Connor. Both are Shaken Baby Syndrome survivors and are two of the most important people in my life....more

Forgiveness Changes Everything

Just the other day I discovered that a sweet bit of forgiveness had been extended to me. After some time of feeling heavy-hearted, I finally feel light again. The gift of that gesture changed my whole outlook. Who knows? Perhaps it seemed like a small act to the forgiver, but to me it was big. When we’ve been hurt, it takes a courageous heart to open a door again. I was touched and, knowing the forgiver, not that surprised. ...more

How can cheating be forgiven?

 What are you thoughts about cheating. Emotionally and physically ? Do you think a relationship can recover from this. What about the saying once a cheater always a cheater. Do you think this is true… is it possible to forgive our relationship partner if cheat us?...more

Better Vision

The blind man came to Jesus and shouted, "Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!" They told him to be quiet. They said, "Don't disturb Him! Don't make so much noise!" But he kept it up. He asked for mercy. Jesus heard him. The Savior wanted the man to be specific. "What do you want me to do for you?" The blind man had prepared his answer. He was quick to say, "Lord, grant that I may see again!" And Jesus gave him his eyesight back. (Some translations suggest this man used to be able to see, but went blind at some point in his life.)...more

Healing Takes Time. Humility Takes Courage. Forgiveness is a Process. Don’t Rush It

One of the most important things we must acknowledge about forgiveness is that it is a process that occurs over time. It doesn’t happen overnight. To mend something that is broken can take a lifetime to fix. Humility takes courage....more

Why You Can’t Build Peace With People Who Have War on Their Hearts

Have your ever been in a situation where you have the most sincerest and loving intention to help someone, restore a relationship, make peace with someone or you’re trying to help someone else understand a matter from your perspective and they do nothing but object you, attack you, and make you feel horrible for even trying to help.You leave the conversation like, “Hold on, wait a minute. I meant no harm and why do I feel badgered, hurt and even worse than before?” This is why…You cannot build peace with people who have war on their hearts. ...more

Forgiving in Relationships-Have You Tried It?

Oh no, the filthy word, FORGIVE!  Who wants to do that after you have been hurt in a relationship?  Shouldn’t you go on hating your ex or being mad at your partner if they have done you wrong?  Don’t you deserve to be angry if you have been hurt?I believe you are entitled to feeling angry if you have been hurt.  How you deal with the anger may be the problem.  ...more

How To Use Solstice As A Parent To Practice Forgiveness

New year’s resolutions are great. There’s a natural momentum to a new year that packs the gym and inspires us to make our beds or refrain from watching reality TV. However, the time before the new year—namely, the Solstice—is also a powerful, sacred time. The Solstice, December 21st, when we shift from the darkest part of the year back into the ever-increasing light, is a perfect time to clear the old to make room for the new. ...more
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What I Learned From A Decade of Being Away From Home

The other night, I dreamt I was back in the Philippines, visiting.  I was walking in the same halls I used to walk when I taught in University.  There were the usual groups of students seated on the floor, by their professor's door, waiting for consultation hours to begin.  It was the same dimly-lit and almost claustrophobic faculty center which I used to call my office building.  It was far from being ideal, but it was home to me, and represented a job I loved and truly enjoyed....more

On Throwing Stones, Flinging Arrows, and Wrecking Trains.

Yesterday I learned about an old acquaintance who is, to put it mildly, going through some things. These "things" are bad. Really bad. And they are a direct result of some really bad choices. Did I mention bad? There's no way around it. And there is no way to justify it. Tracie, one of my best friends since we met in third grade, had this to say about the train wreck that is our old acquaintance's life at the moment: ...more