Healing Takes Time. Humility Takes Courage. Forgiveness is a Process. Don’t Rush It

One of the most important things we must acknowledge about forgiveness is that it is a process that occurs over time. It doesn’t happen overnight. To mend something that is broken can take a lifetime to fix. Humility takes courage....more

Why You Can’t Build Peace With People Who Have War on Their Hearts

Have your ever been in a situation where you have the most sincerest and loving intention to help someone, restore a relationship, make peace with someone or you’re trying to help someone else understand a matter from your perspective and they do nothing but object you, attack you, and make you feel horrible for even trying to help.You leave the conversation like, “Hold on, wait a minute. I meant no harm and why do I feel badgered, hurt and even worse than before?” This is why…You cannot build peace with people who have war on their hearts. ...more

Forgiving in Relationships-Have You Tried It?

Oh no, the filthy word, FORGIVE!  Who wants to do that after you have been hurt in a relationship?  Shouldn’t you go on hating your ex or being mad at your partner if they have done you wrong?  Don’t you deserve to be angry if you have been hurt?I believe you are entitled to feeling angry if you have been hurt.  How you deal with the anger may be the problem.  ...more

How To Use Solstice As A Parent To Practice Forgiveness

New year’s resolutions are great. There’s a natural momentum to a new year that packs the gym and inspires us to make our beds or refrain from watching reality TV. However, the time before the new year—namely, the Solstice—is also a powerful, sacred time. The Solstice, December 21st, when we shift from the darkest part of the year back into the ever-increasing light, is a perfect time to clear the old to make room for the new. ...more
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What I Learned From A Decade of Being Away From Home

The other night, I dreamt I was back in the Philippines, visiting.  I was walking in the same halls I used to walk when I taught in University.  There were the usual groups of students seated on the floor, by their professor's door, waiting for consultation hours to begin.  It was the same dimly-lit and almost claustrophobic faculty center which I used to call my office building.  It was far from being ideal, but it was home to me, and represented a job I loved and truly enjoyed....more

On Throwing Stones, Flinging Arrows, and Wrecking Trains.

Yesterday I learned about an old acquaintance who is, to put it mildly, going through some things. These "things" are bad. Really bad. And they are a direct result of some really bad choices. Did I mention bad? There's no way around it. And there is no way to justify it. Tracie, one of my best friends since we met in third grade, had this to say about the train wreck that is our old acquaintance's life at the moment: ...more

Being One's Self

The one blog I followed "Vagabond Journeys" is no longer as the man who wrote it died last summer. However, I still remember an entry he wrote that hit close to home and I go back to it from time to time. It's about forgiveness and forgiving one's self. As I sit here this morning snarled up with self-loathing and worries about my future financial status, I realize that it's all just trash that gets in the way of what I have truly put myself upon a path to do: that is to create in both written form and artistic form....more


APOLOGIES and FORGIVENESS…… I always say “Forgiveness is a Way of Life” for me……..That I forgive before even what was done was done…….That doesn’t mean I accept what happened in all circumstances or even allow that person back into my life…..It simply means I forgive as a lifestyle……I don’t like carrying around excess weight....more

Meet Hate with Kindess and Understanding

 I love Brene Brown. She encourages people to be vulnerable because it allows us to develop deeper relationships and to feel both positive and negative emotions more fully....more

A Few Measly Days, Of My 38 Years

..."To them, the complete sum of my parts is only calculated by a few measly days, compared to my 38 years." - excerpt taken from 7 Seconds in a Restaurant ...more