Should We Always Forgive?

Here’s a question for you…should we always forgive? Yes? No? Maybe? Depends. On what though? The damage caused, the long term effect, the severity of the pain, the way in which the hurt was given out? The reason I’m bringing this up is because of the pain, anger, hurt, bitterness, regret, shame, vulnerability, loss, grief, sadness caused at things that have past. Recent email replies from nearly a newsletter subscribers have been: ...more

~The Bully and the Bullied~

Childhood is a funny thing.  The parts we remember, the parts we can’t remember, and the parts we try to forget.  I sat down in a restaurant one day with a friend during our lunch break at the local college.  The waiter walks up to me with a huge smile of recognition.  “You know who I am, right?”  He asked still beaming. Of course I didn’t remember him.  I can point-blank tell you about something insignificant 2 years ago on Facebook, but please don’t try to get me to remember faces or names.  I squinted, and...more
@@BehavioralChild hahaha, thanks!more

peace for the wandering soul

I have always been surrounded by wanderers.  I swim amidst thinkers and singers.  Artists and tinkerers of all kinds.  Whether they have spouses or partners, dogs or made-up friends, these are my people. I’ve always been drawn to those who challenged life.  Pushed back the limitations. Created things.  I look at kids nowadays, forced and squeezed into certain stereotypes.  What a shame to be so pigeonholed.  What a waste to not absorb it all.  ...more

I Lied to Myself... But Not Anymore!

I used to lie to myself. A lot. I used to let others define who I was, who I wasn't, who I should be, where I came from... I used to let others define me.The problem is, that was the problem.Lately, I've been remembering these things. I don't really know why. But I'm embarrassed for my past. For the legacy I've left for my family, for the friends I've lost, for the bosses I've failed. For the successes I never reached. For the go-with-the-flow mentality that wasn't so smart to begin with....more

Meena Forgives Buddha

She sounds very wise beyond her years and must be from your guidance from teaching her compassion. more

Apology and Forgiveness

In my clinical experience, I've encountered many clients who are afraid to admit they’re wrong. This comes from a culture of blaming and accusing—where one's early family may have picked a “culprit” when something went wrong, and focused on blame, rather than on fixing the problem and healing the hurt. People with such experiences approach every situation as if they're on trial, and they compulsively try to convince everyone they're not guilty....more

Phyllis Ferguson Forgives Her Son's Killer

Holding onto resentment towards those that hurt me is easy.  Forgiveness is hard.  But when I think about the great physical energy it takes to hold onto bitterness, I often wonder why I choose to carry around burdens that make my thoughts heavy and my ability to empathize weak.  I even put energy into giving weight to things that are forgivable and unforgivable.  I can forgive you if you talk badly about me behind my back, but if you abandon me, I cannot.  Heavier on the scale, I can forgive my parents for some of the mistakes they made like failing to talk to me...more
Beautiful post, Kimberly! Phyllis Ferguson is an exceptional women who is spiritual to ...more


So this whole ‘return of the ex’ situation has really got me thinking about the word FORGIVENESS. I have been trying to work out in my mind whether or not I forgive him for hurting me....more

When Is The Stain Not Washable? ...more

The Balancing Act I Do

"How do I do it, Mom? How do I guard my heart? I can't help what I feel." Ahh. Busted. Therein lies the rub, doesn't it? How, indeed? I am still learning this. I fail at this miserably. But now I must explain what I know, but not what I always do. This is the balancing act I do....more
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