Am I there yet? Waking up and realizing there are no "Cinderellas"

I am 45 years old and have lived a life filled with much happiness and sorrow. Much like all women out there. I am writing this blog to help myself thru a very difficult time. I hope that it heals me as well as any other woman feeling the way that I feel. Life is hard. It offers good days and bad. It offers happiness and regrets. Maybe I am head ass deep in a mid life crisis. Things dont work like they used to and I look in the mirror and say what the hell. I get up day after day hoping to do my best in relationships, career, motherhood and marriage....more

Foiled by a Frito

If you don't know what's up with my current challenge, read it here....more

Oprah reruns show on forgiveness

 Today's Oprah show (now in reruns) featured sisters who had survived years of sexual abuse.  When the show first aired, I wrote a blog post:  Oprah, You let us down.  That post is getting a ton of traffic today and I thought I'd repost the link here, in case you wanted to read it and add your comments to the mix.Blessings,Cynthia...more

Stop Blaming Mother

A mother is a terrible thing to waste. To all adult children who point to their mother as the focal point of their life’s misfortunes, it's really time to grow up.Millions of adult children, some of them already grandparents themselves, still spend time and money on the therapist's couch, ruminating about everything their mother did or didn’t do, does or doesn’t do. These adults don’t see themselves as the imperfect human their own mother is....more

Today is Global Forgiveness Day

Ever notice how the world is teeming with grudge? Clogged with bitterness? Well, the heavy emotional baggage that weighs us down and keeps us from moving forward has got to go, people. As it happens, today is Global Forgiveness Day so might as well ask yourself: "Is there someone I still haven't forgiven?" Taking steps toward that unthinkable line may be the kindest thing you do for yourself all year....more

Can you make peace with everyone? No, but you can make peace with yourself.

  Whenever I conduct a training on confl...more


Yesterday a friend from my Yakima days shared something on Facebook that I immediately felt was speaking directly to me. It said:Love one another and you will be happy.It is as simple and difficult as that.~Leunig  ...more

Finding happiness…

I fondly re-read these quotes today:  “The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet.”James Oppenheim “When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.”Helen Keller...more

Happiness is finding calmness and steadiness in a midst of a minucia incident... and continuing ...more

Forgiveness is a four-letter word.

Her name was a four-letter word; it was fitting. It was the same length as her counterparts: hate, fear, lust. I didn't hate her and I didn't fear her. In fact, I wanted to be her. I wanted her in my life regardless of the sacrifice it would take on my behalf. I needed her in my life regardless of how weak I would become....more