True Forgiveness

  My kids just left for the week. They went to my parent's house. With their dad. My ex. Wait...did I just say that? Yes, I did. My ex-husband left this morning with all four of my little (well, not all of them are so little anymore) munchkins in tow. "Why on earth would you allow that?" you ask. "Your parents WANT your ex-husband to come visit?" you question. Why, yes! Yes, they do.  My parents are very forgiving people.  Are you wondering if they don't realize how he treated me in the marriage? They do. They also realize that I was partly at fault too....more

A Compelling Case for the Third Element

 Between forgiving and forgetting, the two elements that are often talked about lies a space. And in that space you will find a third and easier element – getting past and letting go....more
This is a dilemma I've had for several decades. I like your idea of the Third Element, and think ...more

What Forgiveness is Not

 You’ve heard it time and time again. Forgive, forget and move on....more

Why You Should Write a Journal

When you journal you are releasing hurt, anger, pain, sadness and guilt. You can get it all off your chest without hurting anyone…and it’s time you did. I know it’s easier said than done. I’ve faced my own stubborn issues and I did what I’m asking you to do....more
@victorias_view I agree. It's also a legacy to leave your children.more


Luke 17:1-6 Jesus tells us to forgive.  The Amish in Pennsyvania forgave the man who killed their daughters, I forgave the man who killed my son and tried to kill me, and I forgive people all the time for things they do and am asked "how can you forgive?" Like the Amish  have learned that unless you forgive you are not forgiven and hatred dominates your life, and destroys it.  We are called to forgive in order to live. Deo Gratis! Thanks be to God!...more

What makes it harder...What makes it easier...What makes me stronger...

What makes it harder... On my bad days, I sit back and wonder how could something like this have happened? It happens. I know it does. But I didn't think it would happen to us. I guess every woman who has ever stepped into these shoes says that. But what makes it especially painful to me is that the other woman is my sister. And that she has not made any attempt to acknowledge, apologize for or accept responsibilities for her actions. Blood is supposed to be thicker than water. How would she and my husband hurt me like that?...more

Is There Someone You Need to Forgive?

"Forgiveness is a virtue of the brave." --Indira Gandhi As I approach my 40th birthday, I've been thinking a lot about the past before I move into a new middle aged (good heavens!) present. As is the case anytime you reflect on the past, there are going to be memories of people who hurt you, of people you hurt, and of times you hurt yourself. Considering forgiving someone, asking for forgiveness, or even forgiving yourself can make you feel vulnerable and scared, but consider the benefits: ...more

Wilma - I liked a passage from the Mayo clinic article I linked to above, that might ...more

All about forgiving

Good Morning to all .In Matthew 18:22 to 35 Jesus tells us about the parable of the king who required settlement of debt from his servants. The one servant owed him a lot of money but could not pay. ...more

Forgive but not Forget

I spoke to a good friend about relationships yesterday. She's been married for over 5 years and loves her husband. Unfortunately, her husband hurt her early in her marriage. No, not physically. He hasn't completely lost his mind. He was real Eric Benet with his. He never slept with another woman, but he behaved inappropriately. So now her trust is altered. She's working on forgiving him, but says that she sees him completely different now. ...more

Make Peace With Mom Before She's Gone

My Mother died on Thanksgiving Night of 2006.  I chose to settle things with Mom before she died.  If you haven’t done so, do it now.  Whatever the history, no matter how horrible her crime, find a way to forgive.  Trust me, this is a selfish act.  You will be doing it for yourself.  Oh, yes…it will make your Mother much happier too (big smile).My Mom and I…what to say.  Our relationship was tumultuous, competitive and sometimes felt downright mean.  We were polar opposites.  Yet a soft little voice warned me I’d better get m ...more