Surprising Things I Learned in Foster Care Orientation

Now that my husband has started his career, it is time for us to start on our next journey. My husband and I have wanted kids for a LONG time. I have battled with my infertility ever since we tied the knot. In the last three years I have really accepted the fact of not being able to give birth to my own biological babies, so we have been preparing our heart for foster care....more

Lessons Learned from Children While Waiting on Hold

On the phone at work today, I found myself stuck on hold for nearly half an hour with a social service agency in a county about 300 miles away.  What surprised me was the recorded message that played over and over.  Actually, it was quite cleverly done.  But what I heard sent a chill up my spine.The recording consisted of the voices of children, both girls and boys, of various ages, many of them extremely young.  One by one, they told their stories in a single sentence each:“I am not a punching bag.”“I need a place to call home.”...more

Because Adoption, Because Attention Deficit Disorder, Because Absolutely Everything, Because Nothing

Over the past few years, the following things have been offered to us as possible "causes" for the behavioral problems we have experienced with our seven-year-old son, Harper. Most of the time the suggestions have been made in love, purely out of concern. Occasionally they have been "casually" dropped into a conversation in correction or judgement. Some are shoved down our throats via Facebook articles and blogs. ...more
http://youtu.be/n9k6NyVwcww If you are interested in learning more about RAD, our family was ...more

Navigating Beauty

Not My Dream

On Being the Third Mama

  I hesitated several times before making this post- for many reasons.  ...more

A Letter to My Kids on National Adoption Day

This morning started off like most others. You two were up at the crack of dawn. You charmed Daddy into giving you each a brownie for breakfast while I was in the shower.  Kaden, you had us all laughing until our sides hurt when you pulled open you pajama shirt to reveal the "tattoo" of your own name you'd given yourself with a contraband pen across your chest. We knew you'd done it while looking in the mirror, painstakingly forming each letter, because they were all backwards....more

They Break, You Know

It was something about the phrasing that got to me. Something about the cadence of his words, the staccato of his speech.“Nobody loves me. Not even my mother who gave birth to me.”It is an odd turn of phrase, isn’t it?Not even my mother who gave birth to me....more

Homeless Youth of California

No one really knows how many of California’s young people are homeless at any given time.  But on one day in the middle of the winter last year, a PIT count (a flash census — PIT stands for “point in time”) estimated the number to be about 15,000.  That’s 15,000 youngsters aged 12 to 24 sleeping under bridges and over heating grates, in cars, in shelters, in the woods or on someone’s couch.I’ve known for some time that there are a lot of homeless young people, but I found this number to be truly appalling.  And that’s just for one state!...more

Heart Like a Stone

From my seat at the table, I could see Marla walking across the courtyard with a young woman, probably her case manager. They were walking fast, in step, almost like they were a couple that might be holding hands except Marla was holding a notebook and some papers in her arms....more
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