It doesn't matter what you are doing as a parent, if you read enough studies you learn that you are parenting wrong. But it is easy to accept that you are wrong as a parent: You have, after all, a constant walking/talking reminder in your life that you are an unfair, mean person and that you are crushing all the joy out of life because you won't let someone play on his iPad and instead keep insisting that he brush his teeth. ...more
At least once a year, my Mom girlfriends and I rent a beach house together. It's in the off season, so the place we visit isn't crowded. We stay up late, sleep in, wear pajamas all day, eat yummy food and drink wine....more
Thirty-four hours. That’s how long I had to myself. Barney was away golfing. Jimbo and Mabel were at camp. Thirty-four hours of quiet, me-time. I was nearly giddy with anticipation. How would I spend those 34 hours? When in doubt, I make a list. Here was my list:...more
I have Mommy friends who have taken on a third job as chauffeurs. But they don't work for Uber. They work full-time jobs, take care of their families and then cart their children off to a variety of activities. They spend their evening hours away from their homes and behind the wheels of their cars. In the attempt to give our children lots of opportunities to learn instruments, play sports and learn conversational Mandarin, we have forgotten to give them time for unstructured play....more
I’ve never understood why my calendar is such a mess. Physically it’s a cute calendar, all hot pink and black (my favorite colors). I’m talking about the schedule of things that fill my calendar. It’s either feast or famine with my obligations and social events, with too much to do or nothing at all. At least that’s the way it seems....more
I am a mother. But I am also a woman, and a human. I have needs. And one of those needs is some quiet, alone time. So why does asking for it make me feel so guilty? I have no problem sending my children to day care while I am at work. I see this as a necessity.
I happen to work a 4/10 shift, meaning I work ten hours a day, four days a week. I have Fridays off. We pay for daycare for the full week, but I rarely, if ever, send my children to daycare on Fridays. I feel it is my duty as a parent to never part from them....more
One of my girlfriends invited me to go away for a girls’ long weekend next spring. It would be a to a spa, approximately three hours away from our home town. I was so excited to go, but my mom is making me feel guilty for leaving my 5-year-old-son. Should I go?