NaBloPoMo December: Day 1 (Call Me Al!) way to kick-off this month's #joy theme. This song always reminds me of my best friend K and I dancing around the local supermarket of our college town. Whenever I hear it, I just have to start moving and smiling.Do you have a song that does that for you?   ...more

Changing not Exchanging

Dear Friends,What gift will we exchange this year?Give me the gift of your time, that's all I want. We don't need to talk about the crazy people you work with and what you'd really like to say to them or the latest buzz in the entertainment world. Let's talk about our friendship.Let's talk about what we'd like to bring into our lives in the coming months. We have all lost something this year, ...more

#TBT Egypt 2011


Friendship takes on different meanings for different people. For me, friendship is based on loyalty, commitment and love. I am blessed to have friends from every walk of like, every race, creed and color....more

Maybe Just Maybe

Friendship is not my strong suit.  It never really has been.  Growing up I had some fantastic neighborhood friends, but it didn't quite translate into friends at school....more

Healing Power of Travel: A weekend in Paris

A few weeks ago, I posted a picture on Instagram and my good friend (and spiritual adviser) Nina commented: “one day you should write about the healing powers of Paris”.  She was referring to an encounter we had in Paris in 2008.  Nina was my first friend in college.  She is almost six feet tall, blond, and bohemian. I am short, brown, and military.  On paper we are so different but we bonded over our similarities: our hometown of Rochester, NY, Puerto Rican roots, and most importantly, our passion for writing.  After graduation, we traveled different paths....more
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Friendships and feeling like the odd girl out

When I was in eighth grade I tried out for the role of Yenta the Matchmaker in the school’s production of Fiddler on the Roof. Prior to tryouts, I spent hours in my room practicing how to sound like a Jewish grandmother – the kind who “doesn’t want to bother anyone, she’ll just sit in the dark.”Much to my disappointment, the part went to Cindy Berkowitz, who was the only other girl able to channel her inner Yenta and, perhaps not so coincidentally, was best friends with the girl who had already nabbed the part of Golde, the female lead....more

The Truth About Some Friendships

Recently,  I have really been feeling like I need to re-evaluate the people who I surround myself with. With two little girls, a husband, a home, a Master's program and the hours spent daily on this blog, it is important to have people in my life that support me and that are uplifting, not constantly negative and completely oblivious to what's going on in my life.I'm busy, yes. I'm a mom and that's a full-time job in and of itself, duh. That doesn't mean I'm not allowed to have real and deep friendships....more

Outgrowing your Friendship

As little people, anyone who would catch our ball or push your swing was your friend.Then we became bigger and competed for boyfriends, spots on the coveted team or musical performance.And then we grew up, or so it seemed....more
atvaillancourt Thank you for your insight and taking the time to respond. How fortunate we are ...more

Conservative or Liberal: How To Stay Friends When You are Total Opposites

I have to admit I am conservative in my views on issues in general and very proud of it. I am open to other's viewpoints, and yet I value my own. I simply cannot stand "wishy washy" people; they are the worst kind of people to be around, always changing their minds like the direction of the wind or changing their opinion to please whomever comes into the room. I have many friends who are liberals. They have their opinions and I have mine, and yet, we seem to get along. How is that so? How is it that we can stay friends when we have such opposite views?...more
Constant Commoner.....I love how you worded most of what I agree with.....You truly put in words ...more