Held

I almost lost it--my sanity, my togetherness—when the song came on. “This is what it means to be held.  How it feels, when the sacred is torn from your life.” I covered my mouth. So she wouldn’t hear the sound of my desperation. I pushed my sunglasses up, thankful for them. She was awake. She might be watching. I need Superglue. I blinked back tears. ‘Cause I’m falling apart. I focused on I-270....more

Mercy and Grace

Mercy: Not getting the punishment you deserveGrace: Getting something good you do not deserveMy MOPS meeting last week had a large impact on my mothering. The speaker gave so much practical advice and words of wisdom that I am still processing it.She didn't come armed with only her own wisdom, but she asked her friends for their wisdom as well. She said the responses were from women ranging in age from the early 20's to the late 80's. One of the ladies gave this advise: have boundaries cloaked in grace....more

Own Your Beauty

I'm glad BlogHer is focusing on beauty. Beauty recognized in women from places other than faces and figures. I think it'll be good for me to think about the question asked by them: What are the things you do that fill you with joy and/or grace? Admittedly, it is difficult for me to think about beauty without referencing my own standards I've adopted from the culture in which I live. I've struggled with my body image for as long as I can remember, and was anorexic for a season because of it....more

I'm really excited about Own Your Beauty. I think it's going to really put something that's been ...more

2 mothers, 2 daughters, 2 continents and a homecoming...

How far would you stretch your comfort level, and commit your life to helping another woman? ... another mother? Could you greet a woman you’d never met before…in a public park? (Ask: would I be present, open, willing to pause ruminating over my to-do list, my 'stuff')? Could you have a conversation with this woman? (Ask: would you feel constrained, willing to exchange pleasantries but only for a few moments because of all other responsibilities)? Let’s say something tells you to just take that pause and visit with this woman for a bit....more

2 mothers, 2 daughters, 2 continents and a homecoming...

How far would you stretch your comfort level, and commit your life to helping another woman? ... another mother? Could you greet a woman you’d never met before…in a public park? (Ask: would I be present, open, willing to pause ruminating over my to-do list, my 'stuff')? Could you have a conversation with this women? (Ask: would you feel constrained, willing to exchange pleasantries but only for a few moments because of all other responsibilities)? Let’s say something tells you to just take that pause and visit with this woman for a bit....more

Life Cycles & Time Travel

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Chanting Verses

When I had to stop working full-time, I joined a comparative philosophy class (very convenient, same lecture and discussion three times a week and three units every week. Could be done on the same day all together or spread over a week. Pretty good arrangement, don’t you think for a person with chronic health problems?). I also spent time reading the scriptures of various religions with guidance from the men and women who are qualified to teach their subject and do so as part of their duties at the monasteries and missions....more

Rejoice in This

It all started when I stepped onto the pier after enjoying a blissful sailboat cruise with our daughter, Joy.  The edge of the night sky was still pink from an enduring sunset.  The air was cool, but not chilly, at some unknown, yet perfect temperature.  My husband was in his glory, snapping photos of the all that is life around us.  And Joy looked more beautiful and content than ever, hand in hand with her adoring husband, and wonderfully pregnant.  ...more

Controversial Horror Flicks "Grace" and "Orphan" Give Mothers a Bloodbath

Horror films are at heart fairy tales, and the morals of the stories tend to hit you over the head with the subtlety of a witch's oven door.  This summer, two psychological thriller/horror flicks with big buzz, Orphan and Grace, want you to know that pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, and adopting a child are all selfish, destructive,bloody pursuits. Breeder beware! ...more

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What Does It Look Like to Live Your Bliss for 90 Years?

Every time I go to an excellent concert, I think about what it would be like if every human were an open conduit for the gifts that they were sent here with. Imagine -- a planet full of healthy, happy people doing the things they were meant to do rather than what they are told they "should" do, rather than living in boxes of "normal." Going to see Dave Brubeck play jazz piano at age 90 was the ultimate illustration of ilving your bliss.  This was self-actualization right before my eyes. ...more