When Your Child's Friend Dies

Tonight we received the tragic news of a sweet angel's passing. She was one of our children's best friend from church and Adventurers. Her mom is the director of our Adventurer Club.The daughter was eight and was going to be baptized next month. She sang for Special Music in church. She had a glow about her of innocence and purity....more


People deal with death in different ways. Some people handle the grief rather well, while others let it eat them alive. Losing someone in your life is never easy, and when it comes to losing a parent at a young age, it becomes a tough subject to talk about. For me, May 29th, 2009 started off as any other day in my typical teenage life....more

Sometimes You Don't Get Closure

 Life isn’t a work of fiction with a clear and concise ending all tied up nice and neat for you. Sometimes, life leaves you hanging, and you have to, have to, finish the story on your own.Sometimes, you don’t get closure.~J.V. Manning ...more

Dear Mom, You Gave Me A Voice

How do loss and grief become a blessing? I’ve said before that writing is how I heal. And never is the weight of grief more lifted than when I’m writing letters to my mom. Dear Mom, ...more
Susan Mary Malone Thank you for your sweet words!  I love that--"write it out." Yep.more

Onward, if not through

I'm out on the deck in the sun and the wind, trying to find words to fit what I'm feeling right now. My facebook friends were on fire this morning....more


The dictionary defines the word "grief" as "keen mental suffering or distressover affliction or loss; sharp sorrow; painful...more

You Can. You Will.

In the past, when I have had heart to hearts with friends, we have discussed horrible situations we have heard that people are in, and I have heard my friends say, "I can't even imagine. I don't think I could survive something that devastating. I don't know how they are dealing with it."It is said with such heartfelt empathy and good intentions. In the past I have nodded and agreed. "I know, I think I would just give up. They are so strong, I don't know if I could ever be that strong."...more

Did Someone Die or are You a Writer?

The other day while avoiding my manuscript like the Ebola virus and shopping online...I mean...researching...I came across the Five Stages of Grief. I really am going to write about a guy in a grieving group, just probably not anytime soon. Anyhoo, as I read through them I realized that grief is a lot like writing a book.  A good time was had by all. 1. Denial "OMG. I've really got natural talent."...more

Recipe and Reverie for My Dad's Coconut Cream Pie

My dad died 17 days ago. He had been sick, but I wasn't expecting it. That also happened to be my daughter's sixth birthday and the day before my own. It's been a hell of a couple of weeks....more
Thank you for sharing these memories and this recipe. This is a beautiful tribute to your dad. ...more

Grieve. Letting Them Cry, Laugh and Go On.

My father-in-law passed away last week. Pop was 80 years old and fought a brave-faced, 14-month battle with pancreatic cancer.Soon after I received the news about Pop's passing, my mind went to the task I had in front of me. As a parent, delivering such sad news to your children is a bit of a gut check moment.I knew it couldn't wait. I knew it needed to be truthful, deliberate, and thoughtful. Other than that, I really didn't know what to do. So I decided to just follow their lead. Do what they needed to do. In their time. On their terms. And pray that I could help them....more