A Mother's Touchstone

As a mom to three kids, I do a lot of going in and out of my house. Each time I go to meet a bus, or get into my mom-mobile, I revisit a piece of my childhood and one of my most treasured possessions…my quartz rock.The rock sits among shrubs from our home’s previous owners and some flowers and perennials I’ve planted. About a foot long, the rock blends in with its surroundings. It also stands out as something unique. Just like it did when it was in my mother’s garden. First in the house we lived in until I was nine and now at the house my parents remain in today....more

The Day My Daughter Found Out I Have a Dad

For as long as my children have lived, they’ve assumed that I have only one parent: a mom. I didn’t have a dad because I never talked about having a dad. I never talked about having a dad because, in my mind, I don’t have a dad. Or, I did have a dad, but he died in 2008, two years before my oldest was born. So, since he wasn’t living when we conceived my first daughter and he wasn’t living when she was born, he had no meaning, beyond DNA, to their lives. So I didn’t talk about him…ever. ...more

The Embrace!

I had no idea what happens when a 66 year old "widow" begins phone conversations with a 66 year old "widower"!  It began with discussions about the deaths of our spouses.  What we discovered was we were both completely comfortable talking about our spouses.  That was a good feeling.  Complete honesty.  The conversations moved on to our current status with a bit of a review of our former relationship some 40 years ago, oh my!  What I found most enjoyable was our laughter.  Someone said laughter is the best medicine and I totally agree....more
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Where do you find an acceptable man?

Where to start?  At 66 years old, after being married to my best friend for nearly 40 years, and thoughtfully and prayerfully deciding I want another man to hold me in his arms, where do I find him?  ...more
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Widow World

WOW!  This is exciting!  Hello out there!  I have been writing about my life as a widow for nearly four years, and this is the first time for me to share on BlogHer!  I just learned about this website and it appears to be the "be all, end all" for women in all stages of their lives.  This "stage" for me is all about where do I go from here?I'll quickly bring you up to date....more
Welcome! It's good to have you hear and I look forward to reading about your journey. :-)more

Extraordinary Women Balancing Career and Motherhood

Can you imagine yourself living a life that exceeds all of your dreams? Consider these scenarios: 1) Performing live on stage before thousands of people applauding you for an encore; 2) Walking away from your corporate job to start a business that became more successful than you ever thought possible; 3) Opening a successful business that receives major media attention. Now imagine achieving any one of these things while simultaneously raising a family....more

Uncle Ray - Passing of a Piper Legend

Uncle Ray - Passing of a Piper Legend Whether you like it or not, you're forced to come to the realization that death is out there. But I don't fear death, I'm a fatalist. I believe when it's your time, that's it. It's the hand you're dealt.  ~Clint Eastwood...more

Final Pets

Eulalia Benejam Cobb (Lali)Blog:  MyGreenVermont.comWebsite:  www.LaliGallery.com...more

Blissful Ignorance and Delusional Thoughts

“I was just thinking that I wish my mother could have seen my kids. But you know what that is. That’s delusional thinking. Because my mother would make a horrible grandmother. Because she was a horrible mother.” – Meridith Grey (‘Greys Anatomy’ 2013 season premier)...more

To find the sunlight again

 After the disbelief, the silent hysteria and anger, there comes a time to find a quiet place and give way to the reality that the ones we loved so much have moved on. This takes courage, but it is a path we must take if we are to honor the ones we yearn for, the ones who will always live deep within all that we are....more