Getting Back Time Lost

As hard as you try, you can't recapture time. Special moments that mean so much will eventually fade as time goes on. You are left with only snapshots of time gone by. Pictures of not only the good times, but difficult times as well. But what about those moments that you wish you could do over. Mistakes being made that you know if you had the chance, you could do better. Saying "I'm sorry" to those who deserved an apology, but pride got in the way. Helping those who needed your help, but you were too busy. If only, you could go back and be the person who you are today....more
What a beautiful reminder, Cari.  Thanks for this.more

A Love That Transcends Time

Sometimes we need to believe that the universe brings to us spirits that connect with our soul. There is no other reason for being in our life,than for the simple fact that they complete us. Whether they are here for just a moment or for a lifetime. They belong with us. And if we believe that life has no beginning or end, then we are truly blessed because their loving spirit will live within us forever. Somehow by being together, we learn to support and care for each other unconditionally....more

Memories with Mom - Around the Table

My sister called this week to say that Mom is failing quickly.  The news caused many family scenes to play through my mind:  a picnic at the lake, where honeybees tried to sample much of our food, making homemade ice cream out by the cistern on the farm, sitting around the kitchen table on a 100 degree day with glasses of fresh lemonade.  It’s funny how family memories so often revolve around food.  Mom was a farm girl, and was more likely to serve a bowl of fresh, unadorned cantalope than a fancy dessert.  The meat was from some of our own livestock, we pr...more
@LiJacobs5  Thanks, Lisa.  I appreciate your comments.  I do have so many wonderful memories.  ...more

On Grief: First You Have to Pick the Lemons, Then You Have to Cut an Onion

After my son died twenty-three years ago, I spent a great deal of time talking to people, listening to them, and reading their stories, all in the hopes of finding the inspiration to heal. I heard platitudes that abound in all areas of everyday life: “Time heals all wounds.” “You’re young; you can have more children.” “When God closes one door, he opens another.” “God doesn’t give us more than we can handle.” During different types of loss, I’ve heard other hackneyed phrases like, “It happened for a reason,” and “Maybe you’re better off this way.” ...more
@StellaG  Stella, your reply made me smile. Thanks for reading and sharing and responding!I am ...more

Memories Sewn Into a Quilt

Memories Sewn Into a QuiltMemory is a way of holding on to the things you love, the things you are, the things you never want to lose.  ~Kevin Arnold...more

Giving Birth to a Unicorn: When Your Child Comes Out as Transgender

I thought I was liberal. I thought I'd evolved from the person I was in my youth: conservative, religious, and specific to this post, a hater of gays and lesbians. It's been a long and frequently shameful road to the person I am now (or the person I thought I was now). The person I am now truly believed that I was a good person, a someone who accepted the LGBT community wholeheartedly. ...more
Reading this makes me so comforted, it is a struggle for parents too but some of them are ...more

Under the Cornflower Blue Hills

I dread packing her room. Spend days avoiding it. Sometimes I can only pack one box. But Olivia has finally emailed a list, wants her things now, and I want her to have what she needs as much as I cannot bear to fill those boxes. I dread packing her room. Spend days avoiding it. Sometimes I can only pack one box. But Olivia has finally emailed a list, wants her things now, and I want her to have what she needs as much as I cannot bear to fill those boxes. I dread packing her room. Spend days avoiding it. Sometimes I can only pack one box....more

The First Father's Day Without My Dad

Bear with me — I promise, there are recipes at the end of the tunnel.When someone in your life dies, you embark upon the well-worn path of a year of “firsts”. People who’ve gotten there before you, who’ve lost someone central to their lives, will tell you about what it’s like to maneuver through that initial 12 months of “this is the first year that ______ hasn’t been at ___________.”...more
@Karen Ballum thank you so much, Karen.more

The Flying Purple Eater Rides Again

The  very public, very messy moment I realized the truth about my mother's battle with cancer....more

A Safe Haven for Babies and Parents Alike

There is a cemetery on the way to Westley's preschool. It's an old cemetery; the town's first police chief and mayor are both buried there. I recently learned that the grounds include a newer area, called "Baby Haven." It's exactly what you think it is. Itty bitty plots with tiny headstones. As soon as I learned about Baby Haven, I felt compelled to visit....more
I loved this piece. Cemeteries have a lot of stories and I've always been drawn to them. The ...more