Today has been a long day.  I celebrated a memorial service for "Spanky", it was sad, and it was difficult. He died way too young, 34, and he died sadly. slowly succumbing to his addiction until his body just gave out. I grieve deeply, but the day I stop grieving is the day I quit because as I read through the Bible this Lent I see a God who grieves for us, and calls us to grieve for others, to suffer with them....more

2nd part of My mom and my Bella Rose

Second part  -error I somehow got confused in my ending and I posted incorrectly, it was supposed to read: we had just celebrated mom’s birthday the  previous month and now, that weekend was the last Mother’s Day weekend that we shared with my mom. ....As the Hospice came to the house that following Monday, it was an experience like no other. All of mom’s children with the exception of one, sat around the table as she went into detail as to what to expect. I still was in shock as surely I know so were my brothers and sisters....more

Grief - (Grieving Is Emotionally Painful)

Whenever you or a love one experiences a significant loss, serious illness or death it is normal to experience grief. There are many other types of losses that occur in life that can result in grief as well. Recovery issues, divorce, financial, relocation, career change, natural disasters as well as a miscarriage or abortion can all trigger one to experience a degree of grief. The initial reaction to any of the above is usually shock accompanied by a feeling of numbness. Grief can often result in one feeling a deep sense of hopelessness and or abandonment....more

My friend Vickie died last night and I'm furious

I fucking hate cancer and I have a particular hatred for breast cancer, especially when it steals away a star like Vickie S.  It's just not fucking fair that someone who is 50 years old, who has a 14 year old boy and has spent the last 4-5 years healing herself dies from fucking breast cancer.You have to understand this about Vickie, those of you who will never have the joy of knowing her because she died too fucking young:...more
Thank you, Victoria. The person I feel the worst for is her son. But it is too damn young no ...more

Thank You

I'm writing this post with tears in my eyes because I decided just yesterday to do The Run the Cure.  I decided just last night to email my friends and family - one time only - to ask if they would like to sponsor me.I'm crying right now because their generosity - in less than 24 hours - has overwhelmed me so much that I can't not cry.  I'm a drippy mess of snot in the middle of the post-lunchtime chaos with chocolate residue on my fingers and a permanent ring around my coffee cup.  I would be eating popcorn right now, if I could....more

How to Manage Your Career or Business When Personal Crises Arise

All the business and career advice in the book is great. But, what happens when you're on the path to where you want to go when life intrudes in a major way? Do you stay on the path? Can you do it all? Do you have to give up the dream? I had to walk this very path last year myself and I learned a lot about myself and business in the process. ...more
Thanks for the great advice. My mom is getting older and is beginning to have health problems. I ...more

When the Worst Happens

This week's blog is up on - a little different than previous entries.  I was reminiscing on a rough patch we went through as a family last July.  I find that in every situation, SOMETHING can be learned.  Check it out, and as always, feel free to leave some love. Be the change that you want to be in the world. ~ Gandhi...more

8 Ways to Prepare Your Young Child for a Grandparent's Death

Today's Featured Guest Writer is Connie Matthiessen, Senior Editor at

We may be just a tad mentally ill

yvonne@attractedtoshinythings   My family's life has gone to hell since Ira died. I can't stop thinking about how it used to be, how it should have been and what I should have said blah blah blah. Julia is in a complete state of denial, Dad? Dad who? Ohhh, DAD! Yeah, he's alive you know. Just....away.   And then there's Zach. That's right, he gets his own paragraph. Mostly due to the fact that he would probably hit us or kick us if we let him in our paragraph....more