The common wisdom is that a person needs four hugs a day for survival, eight for maintenance, and twelve for growth. I doubt that this is confirmed by any scientific studies and I doubt that it is true. If it were, there would be millions of people on Earth who would not survive....more
One day when I dropped my son off to school, a little girl in his class came over to greet him with a giant hug and some happy words. My son bared it, the girl walked off and my son looked up at me and said, "These girls - they always want to hug me." ...more
Breastfeeding has a subtle but incredible effect on me: It makes me addicted to my baby. I've never thought about it in those terms before, but now that I'm on my third nursling, I actually noticed this pattern. When I'm agitated or upset, the first thing I do is seek out my baby and go cuddle with him, and nurse him if he's willing.
There was a holiday that got missed yesterday amid the excitement of the inauguration and the service performed in honor of Martin Luther King. Yesterday was National Hugging Day!It's a bit sad, really, that it would take an actual "day" to remind us of the fact that everyone needs a hug now and then. In our digital world, human contact seems to happen less and less....more
As I wrote yesterday, I was in New Orleans for the weekend. The occasion was a friend's 50th birthday celebration.It was so good to be able to spend time with one of my friends from back home. I had missed her terribly. When I first saw her and hugged her, I also realized how much I missed the hugs and touch of a friend. ...more
It all comes back to Maya.Nearly a year ago Ms. Angelou stared back at me from the TV and said:You have to give. Give what you have to give.I couldn't say no. More than that, I realized how much I wanted to say yes. How long I'd been waiting for the opportunity to give what I have to give.I wanted to generously give love, and to have it received. I just needed a push....more
Little boy lies in bed in the dark talking to himself, "Sister was crying and Daddy picked her up. I was crying and Mommy picked me up." Gosh dang - that's some sweet stuff for my little boy to know about the world. And the kajillion hugs he keeps asking for at bedtime are pretty sweet too.He's working the system a bit, but he's doing it well and this is a WELCOME relief from all last week....more
My 4y.o. son is Too Darn Affectionate.I’m his mother – so 9 times out of 10 I’m okay with his excessive hugs. But he even drives me crazy … not to mention his brother.
I know what you’re thinking … “but that’s so cute;” “enjoy it while you can;” “what’s so wrong with an affectionate child?” I may have gone along with you on that – and I have been going along with it. Even when he .....more
So when I had the opportunity yesterday morning to ride to school with Cam, I jumped on it. This is our last year of elementary school, and it feels like a chapter of childhood is closing. Eager to squeeze out every moment I can, we hop on our bikes and quickly head out on the bike path. My big red cruiser is no match for his neon pink BMX bike -- I have to work to keep up. After a few minutes he slowed and said, “You know, Mom, when Lily was in 4th grade she rode to school by herself. Why do you still ride with me?”...more