The Importance of Fishing

I remember growing up, I was always doing something. I know that most of this is because there weren't as many technology distractions but I was always doing SOMETHING. I started riding horses at a young age (And miss it like crazy. One day I WILL own my own horse), played soccer and softball and tried to force my way into the street football games with my brother and all our friends.  There were times I would go from the barn to the soccer field or from the soccer field directly to a softball game. And I loved every second....more

just take a taxi

i am not even sure i want to write about this. it tough to write about and to get it down on paper. but this blog is about this trials and tribulations, successes and achievements that come with living through epilepsy. so, here we go... i don't struggle often. i am forever grateful for this. i do struggle with others lack of basic consideration. i do struggle with others seeing me and thinking that because on the outside everything looks "fine", then all must be well. i struggle when others are assholes. ...more

I Don't Want My Children To Be Independent

I keep seeing things pop up on social media about how to make sure your child is independent and, after a great deal of thought on the subject, I realize that I don't really want my children to be independent....more

Feminism Fridays: I am my own woman

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The Secret Sadness of Being Independent

I was calmly holding it together in the psychologist’s office until he asked, “Are you lonely?” Involuntarily, tears started pouring down my face and I stammered that yes, yes, I was lonely. I made the appointment to talk about how I screwed up every relationship I’d been in, but this revelation was unexpected. I did not return to find out how to fix it....more

Seeking Independence

This past year has been a real growing year for my oldest son and his path to independence.  It started with allowing him to ride his bike to the library (the next street over) and grew to walking home from school one day a week with our neighbors.  It’s been a learning curve for the both of us.  I’ve had to have internal arguments with myself and remind myself not to hover like a helicopter....more


Today, I saw a friend whom I hadn’t seen in a few months. We talked about how it was for me financially since I was out of work for a while. She mentioned that she’d read my blog (which NEVER gets old to hear, by the way, thank you so much!) and found my posts about debt repayment insightful. You can read about them here. I felt tickled by her admission....more

Backing Out

This will be a rather personal post; I’m not very good with those. However, I felt the need to share a lesson I’ve learned over the past year. That lesson is this: when one makes a decision, however prematurely, one must never go back on it. You’re just stuck. Even in a world that offers endless possibilities and opens countless doors, we are expected to stay within the confines of what society wants us to do. Or at least, these are the ideas my surroundings have pushed on me for the last few months....more

When and As Needed

Home and Work Are Independent - Work at Work

It is fantastic to know that work and home are independent entities, so do your work at work. Work, also know as employment, is commonly defined as the state of having paid work, one's trade or profession. Work is a serious activity. Employers who are paying people to work, expect them to work. While it is typical for employees to spend a little work time goofing off or doing personal things, both these activities are frowned on my most employers. When the goofing off at work or spending time on personal things1 goes too far, a person can find herself unemployed....more