It’s easier to grow without a father than to grow with a father who isn’t a father to you. Our daddies play a crucial part in our life. No matter how strong or amazing or tough your mother is, you always need your daddy, she can never fill up those big shoes. A mother cannot be a father and a father cannot be a mother. Those two are very different roles....more

Narky Friends? Take Elizabeth Gilbert's Advice and Let It Go.

Sometimes, the people you love dearly will go to great lengths to keep you small.They’ll despise the fact that you appear happier than you used to be. They’ll mock the things you love, and belittle your achievements.And it’s not even about you.Comparison is an awful thing. Wouldn’t it be a lovely world if we just accepted our own greatness, rather than using everyone else’s lives to try and assess our own?...more
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How to Overcome Your New Blogger Fears

I have been struggling. Struggling with whether I know enough to blog, whether I'm good enough to blog, whether I can achieve the goals I have floating around in my head. Today I'm saying STOP. I'm sitting with my insecurity and I'm letting it go. Instead I'm reminding myself of what I can do to keep moving forward, to keep enjoying this new space I've created on the web. ...more
Thanks so much! You never know how people will respond when you're open with your own ...more

Today is both Insecure Writer's Support Group day and day six of #NaBloPoMo--I combined posts.

Let's combine the blog hops today, shall we? ...more

The Ugly Duckling Complex: Dating Made Difficult

  You don't feel as attractive as the people standing around you. You don't level up with them as far as your sense of style goes....more

Can Your Partner Have Friends of the Opposite Sex?

In recent interview for Stella Magazine, recording artist Mary J. Blige said: “All females for me, all guys for him. There’s none of that, ‘Oh, that’s my female friend. Oh, that’s my guy friend.’ No. Not in a marriage, I’ve never seen that work.”...more
I see a problem speaking from experience not all female can be trustworthy when come to your ...more

I Wish I Had Grown Up Hearing Women Say They Loved Their Bodies

I Wish I Had Grown Up Hearing Women Say They Loved Their Bodies Just some thoughts for you....more

Working Towards Confidence

After I published a post last week on the importance of asking for what you want, I heard from a lot of you about your own experiences in the workplace. I heard from ladies in London, Paris, Bucharest, and Australia who told me about things that they wanted but didn't know how to ask for, or maybe were afraid to ask for. ...more

7 Ways to Overcome Insecurity

Insecurity is as common as a cold. So many of us wander through life saddled with the effects of damaging childhoods, traumatic relationships or events and subsequent personal shortcomings; all of which can burden us with a lifetime of endless self-doubt.7 Ways to Spot Insecurity1. Defensiveness - when a person feels he or she isn't equal to others, a common way to respond is by putting others down, and being easily offended....more

Women Have Eyes, Too. Why Can't We Check Out Guys?

I loathe the phrase “Men are visual creatures”.It’s a phrase used to excuse things from excessive porn watching to infidelity. It makes women wear things they’d never wear and excuses the lack of reciprocity when it comes to things they find visual appealing. It says that women don’t care about looks while men do and shames women who care all at the same time. I believe women are just as visual as men, but our socialization has pushed us to downplay those things while our insecurities bubble up with each photo or video in our newsfeeds and timelines....more
Great post Shanta. Yes you are a writer - and a good writer too. And I look - oh baby I look. I ...more