It’s easier to grow without a father than to grow with a father who isn’t a father to you. Our daddies play a crucial part in our life. No matter how strong or amazing or tough your mother is, you always need your daddy, she can never fill up those big shoes. A mother cannot be a father and a father cannot be a mother. Those two are very different roles....more
Sometimes, the people you love dearly will go to great lengths to keep you small.They’ll despise the fact that you appear happier than you used to be. They’ll mock the things you love, and belittle your achievements.And it’s not even about you.Comparison is an awful thing. Wouldn’t it be a lovely world if we just accepted our own greatness, rather than using everyone else’s lives to try and assess our own?...more
I have been struggling. Struggling with whether I know enough to blog, whether I'm good enough to blog, whether I can achieve the goals I have floating around in my head. Today I'm saying STOP. I'm sitting with my insecurity and I'm letting it go.
Instead I'm reminding myself of what I can do to keep moving forward, to keep enjoying this new space I've created on the web.
In recent interview for Stella Magazine, recording artist Mary J. Blige said: “All females for me, all guys for him. There’s none of that, ‘Oh, that’s my female friend. Oh, that’s my guy friend.’ No. Not in a marriage, I’ve never seen that work.”...more
After I published a post last week on the importance of asking for what you want, I heard from a lot of you about your own experiences in the workplace. I heard from ladies in London, Paris, Bucharest, and Australia who told me about things that they wanted but didn't know how to ask for, or maybe were afraid to ask for. ...more
Insecurity is as common as a cold. So many of us wander through life saddled with the effects of damaging childhoods, traumatic relationships or events and subsequent personal shortcomings; all of which can burden us with a lifetime of endless self-doubt.7 Ways to Spot Insecurity1. Defensiveness - when a person feels he or she isn't equal to others, a common way to respond is by putting others down, and being easily offended....more
I loathe the phrase “Men are visual creatures”.It’s a phrase used to excuse things from excessive porn watching to infidelity. It makes women wear things they’d never wear and excuses the lack of reciprocity when it comes to things they find visual appealing. It says that women don’t care about looks while men do and shames women who care all at the same time. I believe women are just as visual as men, but our socialization has pushed us to downplay those things while our insecurities bubble up with each photo or video in our newsfeeds and timelines....more